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writes:I broke up with my ex for almost a month now. but i can't get my mind off of him. He's everywhere. Whenever I do anything or when I look at anything, it reminds me of him. I miss him so much. We were together for 2.5 years. He cares for me and loves but i seem to take him for granted lots of time. But his bad points really upset me. He's always late, never keeps his promise. What beats all that is that he always tries to be here when i need him.But all of this really changed ever since his female cousin from Vietnam come live with his family. They hang out all the time. This cousin of his always says sweet things to him. he said it's normal for her to do that because that's how people in her home country talk. I disagree. Then things between us started going really bad. I hesitated about breaking up, but he said he wants to break up because it's not wowrkign out for him.He is my first, so I cant control my feeling so much. I went all over the place, get mad at him, cuss at him and always be depressed when i see him. When I saw him and his cousin together, i got mad and calling them names and stuff. I appeared so desperate and stupid. He said that all he can give me is his body, not his heart anymore. does this mean that he stops caring for me and liking me? He never really calls, when he does call, it's when he needs something. Never really call to ask how im doing. Should I give up on him? Did he really move on? Does he ever wanna be back with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): well first this was your fault. bcuz they are just cousins. i would be mad if someone accused me of having something with my cousin also! i say you should just let it go, if he is not really talking to you. maybe next time you wont do the same mistake and actually trust your partener with their cousin.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (12 May 2009):
 Oh dear,
Well I think you have answered your own question.
You are so young. You really do have your whole life ahead of you. Do yourself a favor and dont waste another second on him. I know it seems like your world is caving in, but sweety it isnt.
Everyone deserves to be treated with respect, and you are not being treated very well. I would say that you need to move on and let this guy go. It seems he has a weird and un healthy relationship with his cousin(I would not be surprised if he was sleeping with his cousin).
I know that may sound crass, but I am giving you a worst case scenario so that you will understand just how much you have yet to experience. Do it without him.
GO OUT AND ENJOY YOURSELF...THE HELL WITH THIS GUY!
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