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writes:Asking is it better to end a relationship if trust if broken??? I did not physically cheat but sexual videos btwn me and a girl got found and then she forgave me not only for me to get caught on a chatting site a few months later ..so she says figuratively speaking if that can happen, how long before it becomes physical. Most people say you can trust again but to a limit. i understand that and its like every since that she just has to be a hawk over my shoulder, not saying I don't deserve it, but come on who wants to live like that??? Sooo, is it better for me to end the relationship than to keep living and fighting for this that seems to be getting nowhere? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2016): You're both very young. This is too much for her, and you've broken her trust more than once. I'd say you've put her through enough, and she is always going to be paranoid.
Everything that has happened has caught her by surprise.
You need to mature and work on your character before taking on a girlfriend. Trust is a valuable thing to handover to someone. You can't take it for granted and you have to realize how important it really is. It's the only thing that can hold a relationship together. Love isn't love without it. It's an important ingredient that nourishes a relationship and strengthens the bond between two people.
Do her and yourself a favor. Let her go gently. You can't live under constant suspicion, and you just might slip up again; and this would be all too traumatizing for her. None of the things you've done are light violations. They're pretty serious.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (12 June 2016):
 I was going to write a fairly long post, but Honeypie covered it all. Stay single until you don't make decisions that get you dangerously close to cheating. Only get in committed relationships when you're mature enough and ready to commit.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 June 2016):
 I think it's better you end it and grow up. What you are doing is RARELY OK in a relationship, and you ought to be old enough to KNOW that. I'm sure you wouldn't be tickled pink if your GF was the one doing these things.
Overall though, your GF has lost not only trust in you but respect and possibly attraction. So.. maybe for BOTH your sake's end it.
If you can't be trustworthy and respectful towards your partner... stay single, that way you hurt no one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2016): Yeah, go. She'll be a lot better off.
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