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writes:Hi im 18 years of age and I'm at college I had previously broken up with am older guy that I had a long term relationship with I wasn't looking for anyone and I was happy but my friends all had partners and they decided to set me up wits a friend of there's we met in a group date and further on down the line after a few dates we decided to be friends with benefits as he told me he was going to university for 9 years in Reading which is about 3 hours away and then a few weeks along he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes but I've always had the thought it's not going to go anywhere because it's going to inevitablely end I don't know whether to end it before we both get attached or drag it out he's making me feel so guilty he's a really nice guy and I don't want to hurt him but he's going to ultimately hurt me in a few months. I seriously don't know what to do ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2016): If you go into a relationship thinking about when it will end it won't help you or your partner. I believe this age is the most stressful and confusing when it comes to relationships due to university etc. If there is no other issue than the distance and fear of getting hurt thats making you question your relationship then why end it?
9 years is a long time so you have plenty of time to trial this situation. If you still find yourself wanting to be with him then you haven't lost out but if it doesn't work then at least he's far away so it won't distract you.
However if you are honest with yourself and you write down more cons than pros definitely end it asap because it will only hurt you both in the long run especially if you have mutual friends.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 April 2016):
 You are going out with this guy so you need to be able to talk to him about how you are feeling. So sit down with him and tell him you are worried that if you both get closer you are going to get hurt in a few months, he is probably worrying about it as well. Am sure if you wanted you could both do long distance and see how you get on, but first talk to him instead of just breaking up with him.
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