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writes:Hey,I was trying to lookout for this girl friend of mine, Jess. She's been going out with a guy friend of mine and they've been good friends of mine. The guy was my friend first but as I had problems with my significant other, the girl helped me out more. Anyway the two of them broke up and at a party that they were both at the guy hooked up with another girl which I guess didn't matter since they were broken up. Anyway a good friend of mine told me that they thought that this guy John hooked up with some other girl. Jess, brought it up to me when we were hanging out that she heard something about it, but thought it wasn't true. I guess I should have been content with that, but I was trying to help her out so that she wouldn't get manipulated into believing that it didn't happen when its very possible it did. Well she said she'd keep it quiet even though she didn't think it happened. Soon after she called the guy who is out of town and he leaves me these messages calling me a bitch and choosing a girl over a friend and thinking that I'm high and mighty. I guess I should have kept my mouth shut? I don't think this would have been an issue had she not ratted me out like this, but I really wasn't trying to screw him over just make sure she wasn't oblivious to certain things. Now he's pissed off and furious with me and another guy friend of mine saying that we made our choices.Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): Well she brought it up and you told her waht you knew. Even if you brought it up, there is no crime here that you've committed and your male friend way over reacted. Friendships aren't things that should be so easily left in teh dirt, so i think you should jsut try to work it out with him. Give him time to cool off and come around. If he never does, then don't bother with him because that would mean that he's not really someone you want in your life taht you have to deal with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat I might have done wrong I guess would be telling her stuff that I heard when I didn't know for sure, but I was just telling her what I knew, which is what she asked. I guess some people might think I should have told her I don't know since I didn't for 100% know.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (3 June 2009):
 i would say good riddance. hes not a very good friend for having you in the middle of this what were you supposed to lie to her ? to save his ass for his mistakes ? i dont think so, she obviously has shown more friendship which is why you decided to be truthful and honest i dont think anyone would go against you on that, hes just pissed that you ddnt cover for him and now he has no girl. she shouldnt of said it was you but then again she may of just been thinking about herself and just missed the fact that it may trouble you. he obviously ddnt do enough to prove to you that he was a decent enough guy so you went with her becausee she ddnt deserve to not know the truth all in all i think you did the right thing hard but the right choice others may have their opinion. good luck aphex xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): I don't understand.. you said Jess brought it up to you when you were hanging out. Meaning, she initiated the conversation and then all you did was talk about it.
So what did you do wrongly? Am i missing somethign huge here?
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