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writes:im for years old i go to shaw high and my bf is well i really dnt kno how old he is but i kno he is in the 10th and go to shaw he respect the fact that i was not ready to have sex with him when i went over his house so we just kissed and just talked...i love him and i been wanted to have sex but not with just any boy and i think her is the one but my focus is on the fact that i dnt want to get into something i cant get out of but my question is am i to young and will it hurt...!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): I dont think that it is wrong to have sex at 14. I first had sex when i was 14 at my bf house he didnt rush me into it. He told me when he was ready and i told him when i was ready. At first it hurt but the next few times it didnt. A few weeks later i went on holiday and i was craving for sex. As soon as possible i hadSex with my bf.my only advice is if you decide to have sex do it with the right person. And think about the possible consiquences
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reader, Fee-Fee  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 I've said this many a time. I respect the law on underage sex, but if you truly feel you are ready then there isn't really anything a whole host of strangers can do to stop you! All we can do is advise you to make sure you are safe and protected.I agree with both Fairy-Lu and Ely14 on this point though - if you don't even know the basic information like how old your boyfriend is, how are you expected to know if you are in a committed and trusting relationship?! As I said though, all we can do is tell you how to make sure you are safe. Use a condom, and make sure you read the instructions carefully.The pain varies from person to person. For me personally, my first time barely hurt, but for others the pain can be agonising. It is just a matter of being gentle and taking your time.In my eyes, the fact you felt it necessary to even ask if you are ready shows you have some doubts about it and are, in fact, not ready for such a big step.You have years ahead of you - don't rush into something if you still have doubts about it. Fee
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): Wow I'm your age nd I think it would be VERY unwise to have sex it seems like you barely know him seeing as you dn't even know his age
THINK IT THROUGH
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): don't have sex now. you will regret it. you are young. save yourself. you have so much time before thinking about sex. I mean it's your life but 14?! come on now! last year or so you were probably into pokemon or dolls like bratz and girl diary?! come on now. I bet you'd totally miss doing that. Also, if you think about it, your body hasn't finished growing yet, not until about 19 or 20, do you stop (physically), mentally that's another story. emotional is another story as well. Please, if you have some respect for yourself, you're not going to go into it at this time. SEX should be off limits till you know you are ready to commit to the other person, be with them, and also if you end up becoming pregnant or having an std, do you know what to do?!
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reader, ely14 +, writes (17 January 2009):
 u r totaly to young to ha sex!!
U DNT EVEN KNO HOW OLD HE IS!?!?
jus wait...u still have lots && lots of time to do it!!...ull kno wen ur ready....=]
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): Yes it will hurt.
Are you too young, well I would say yes, but you are still in the end going to do what you are going to do. Truthfully I knew many girls that were your age for their first experience.
The only piece of advice that I can give you is do not do anything that you are not comfortable doing. If you want to wait do not let anyone allow you to change your mind. It is an incredibly important decision, one that I think you are aware of how important. If you do this when you are not ready or do not want to you will only regret it...forever. Just wait, there is no rush, and if he threatens to leave you then he is not the type of person to be with. Do not allow that to change your mind, there are better people out there.
Just make sure you are honest with yourself and do not do anything you do not want to do, walk away, you will be better off for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): Three things:
A. What's the age of consent in your state?
B. How long have you known him/been seeing him and are you in an official relationship?
C. Are you sure you feel ready to have sex?
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (16 January 2009):
 you want to have sex with a boy you love and yet you dont even know how old he is? The fact you even asked if you should have sex just shows you are not ready.
You only a kid enjoy being young and care free sex complicates things and can lead to pregnancy and disease get to know each other talk and dont have sex till you are both ready and till its legal!
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