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writes:I have been married for 21 years and in a relationship with him for 28. Almost once a year my husband will will basically say that he is the one who sacrifices for the family. I stayed home with all of our boys and our last one is now in Jr. year of H/S. He wanted me to work and I found some part time work along with some temp work. How do I make him understand that I have been contributing in the relationship, just not financially. we are not suffering financially at all. When he says this to me I feel as if I am a maid or housekeeper/nanny, not a good feeling.Just recently we have been looking after a small animal from our son as he is not allowed to keep her in his apt. My husband does not want a pet. Last night he said we should give money to those in need, not spend it on a pet. We did give money to haiti and I reminded him. His comment was that he gave the money. How do you react to that? The only money we have spent on the pet is for food which is 17.00 for about 3 months and shots 1oo.oo.
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reader, raiders +, writes (27 April 2010):
 Staying home and watching over the children is a great responsibility. Not everyone has the privilege to stay home and watch over the little ones since the cost of living is too expensive. Yet he gave you this luxury and should not ever throw it in your face, man will not understand that the work around the house is never done and its exhausting and very unappreciated. Have you ever asked him to pay you a salary for your work because if he wants to accept it or not you keeping up the house is work, and its a major contribution not financially but very demanding. You also sacrifice yourself by not working because you could have worked and had more materialistic things but chose to be a stay home mom and make sure that yours and his children grew up to be responsible adults. Start preparing a bill for your unpaid and unappreciated work.
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