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writes:My boyfriend wants to have anal sex but I'm scared because I'm still a virgin.And it sounds great but Im still not sure. What should I do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): I've had anal sex, but just twice. The 1st time my boyfriend and I had anal sex it didn't hurt, but I believe the reason it didn't hurt so bad was due to the position I was in. The second time I did it, I screamed out in pain lol. Make him take it nice and slow, be sure to use a condom, and if it hurts make him stop, no matter what the circumstances are. best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): If you do decide to have anal sex, you need to make sure that plenty of lube is used (a thick one that will stay in place). he needs to go slow and not dive in. he needs to listen to you and you need to let him know if it hurts or if you like it and how fast/slow to go. USE A CONDOM!!!!, a regular one, no ribs and no spermicide. even the smallest amount of feces can be dangerous. clean out your rectum. If anal sex is done correctly then it should not hurt, if it does then you need to stop because that is your body telling you that something is not right. you need to experiment on yourself before having it with your boyfriend, use your finger and USE lube...did i mention lube...Once again, i say it is a delicate process and cannot be done the same way as vaginal, both you and your partner will enjoy it more if you are gentle.
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reader, ilovemybaby +, writes (8 April 2008):
 NOOO dont do it its painfull!
iv'e never done it but seen four of my girlfriends that did it and said it was the worst sexual experience.one of them ended in the hospital. listen to what everyone is saying to you its a bad idea!
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (8 April 2008):
 NO! NO! NO! Anal sex can be dangerous. It is meant as an exit, not an entrance. You anus is not designed for sex. Anal intercourse can tear your rectum or anus (the last bit of your large intestine), can make you sick from the bacteria and is extremely painful! There are a very few women who actually enjoy anal sex, but they are in the distinct minority. Hey there are people who actually enjoy all sorts of weird things like barfing on each other, beastiality and S & M. Just because a few deviants enjoy something does not make it normal or good for the vast majority of us. Trust me, it HURTS!!!
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 Not if you want to get scared off sex for life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): I don't think its a good idea to be honest. When I first had anal sex, I actually passed out with pain. Lets just say, that put him off anal for quite a while! Especially as you're a virgin, I wouldn't recommend doing anal when you're losing you're virginity. Yes, some girls can take it, but even pornstars admit its all acting when they pretend to enjoy anal. A lot of women just don't enjoy it. Of course, you could try it! But I wouldn't advise it during your first time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Why on earth would you want your first sexual experience to be taking it up the bum? It is an exit not an entrance and it hurts.....especially the first time.....I wonder what virginity means to you....having anal sex is having sex....so why not try the usual vaginal kind if you are wanting to have sex with a boyfriend....having anal means you are no longer a virgin to sexual penetration or having sex.....so make a decision as to what you want to do, lose your virginity and have sex with your boyfriend or decide to wait for your own personal reasons....it is your choice what to do with your own body, not his.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Anal sex isn't for everyone. A male who is horny that can't get sex will put his penis into anything for pleasure.
Preparation is required, like wearing a butt plug and prior, and enema, otherwise, you may have crap all over. He should also wear a condom if you do let him.
Has he done anal before? Has he had sex before? For the age specified for you, assuming he is close, how many women has he had sex or anal play with. No protection, whether oral, anal or intercourse, has the risk of STD's if your partner has played around.
Be careful. If not done right, anal sex can hurt like hell, and also tare tissue. Hopefully, he is gentle and patient.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Hmmm .... well you should really take time and think it over before you do anything. Make sure you really want to do it and your not just doing it because he wants you to.
I've heard things saying that anal sex is risky because it can like mess up things in your body but I'm not too sure so don't just go by what I am saying ok. I'm sure someone on this site will know.
Really take time and listen to your heart. it always knows best:)
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