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writes:So, me and my girlfriend live together and one night her uncle kicked her cousin out of his house. I've never met the uncle but I hear he is a real piece of crap. My girlfriend asks me if her cousin can stay the night at our apartment for a night. Normally, I wouldn't care, except I've met this guy a few times and each time he has been a real jackass, and what makes it worse is that he has admitting to stealing a few cars and has the stereos to prove it! Now I took this personally because my brother got his car stolen last year and it screwed EVERYTHING up for him.So, when she asked me if he could stay the night, I said "Fuck no, I don't want him around here. In fact, I want to beat the shit out of him!" She got super pissed at me and says that he's her cousin and she is his family. I think that family or not, a person who is so selfish and low enough to wreck someones life by stealing their car doesn't deserve my help. I would do the same to my cousin. Am I wrong? Should I allow a theif to sleep under my roof? Am I disrespecting my girlfriend by dismissing the subject?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): i think that this is more than just sticking by your principles, at the end of the day it IS your house therefore you have a responsibility for your valued possessions he does not sound good- you need to explain this to her that you can't take the risk obviously she can't help her family being like this but just because she's oversensitive about it you know you are doing the strong and reasonable thing to protect your property which you earned i agree with the first answer you have every right and i definitely believe sticking by your word is the right choice- she should understand this because it's perfectly justified and it's REALLY important to you otherwise i dont think she's worth the time-just my opinion just remember the most important thing is you make an honest decision bearing in mind you could lose your gf
and also keep your emotions under control, anger could cause lotof damage, good luck!
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reader, petina1  +, writes (12 December 2008):
 It's always a tricky one with the family. If y ou really must back down on this issue it wouldnt hurt to hide your most valued possessions. They say thieves don't steal off their own, but I wouldnt put temptation in their way. Families will always try to look after their own flesh and blood. I wonder if he stays the odd night you may not be able to get rid of him if he's no where else to go, so you must set firm boundaries if you do. At the end of your day you are right to be worried about him being in your home but tread carefully as it is your girlfriends family. good luck. hope this helps.
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reader, Asked Angel +, writes (12 December 2008):
 This is a real tough question but i don't think your wrong i agree with you. However i can understand where your G/F is coming from for some people family is family no matter what.
I think if her cousin was thinking about his family he wouldn't have stolen in the first place.
It's your house to if you have a problem with him being there you have every right to say so.
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