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writes:I am 7 weeks pregnant for a man I have been seeing for over 12 years with a two year gap in which I had a child for someone else and so did he. I have been pregnant 5 times for this guy and he has forced me to have abortions knowing I am the type woman who wants a happy family not a broken one. Every time I get pregnant he leaves me, or ignores me until he hears I will have an abortion. The last time I was pregnant and he started ignoring me so I had an abortion, went on holiday and when i returned sent him a text saying why can't we just be a family and raise our child together, to my surprise he came over that same day and asked where's my bump, i told him of the abortion and he said 'Well there's no need for me to be here then'. Another thing is he is a massive cheat, I have had endless girls on my phone and found out he was sleeping with at least five different women at 1 time, he's a dog. The worst thing about my situation is I actually ended the relationship prior to my pregnancy when he admitted he could not commit to me and that I will never be able to have him the way I want him and stuff so I ended it and started a writing cousre from home which 2 weeks into I find I'm pregnant. I really really don't want to have an abortion, I have lay awake in tears at night with regret over previous ones and woke up from my last abortion crying. He knows how racked with guilt I feel about it after 12years of being together I can't help thinking how can he behave like this toward me? Do you think it is sensible to bring my baby in this mess? To grow up with a father who may not care? who has a reputation for being the dj that sleeps with any1. My Daughter has global delayed development so I have to do a lot for her, I know she would absolutely love a little brother or sister but I a terrified of how I a going to cope alone again as I was left alone pregnant with my first child. I know this is a crazy situation and very careless and irresponsible from my part as a woman but I am in desperate need of advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): Oh Sweetheart, you are more than welcome. I was glad I could help you in some way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much Vintage64 for making me realise that my baby is a gift, you have opened my eyes to so much today.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): OP if you need someone to talk to feel free to PM me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): No one can tell you what to do. If you want this baby, then have it. I know it is scary being alone, but lots of women do it there is support out there to help you through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, what you said is not harsh, it's true. I hate abortions and only had those because at the tie my special needs daughter was so young and needed my undivided attention and I felt I couldn't cope with another child on my own. I knw n my heart I need to leave him and had aldready left before finding out I was pregnant. I texted him the news last night and he has totally ignored me. I went to the drs this morning, i am due in September, I don't think I could ever give any child of mine up for adoption, I know it's not worse than abortion but it's just knowing I would have a child out there somewhere that I a not caring for, I would regret that probably more than the abortions to be honest. I want this baby, it's just the doing it alone and my x not caring, i will have 2 kids by 2 different dads and be a single mother, although my daughters dad does look after her and provides too. I think what I want is for someone to tell me what to do.. Will I be making a massive mistake by having this child by him, then again, it will be me with the role as mummy amd daddy...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): I would get rid of him if I were you. Forcing you to do something so horrific is beyond cruel.
It's up to you if you want to keep the baby, but like the other person said,have you thought about adoption?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): I am sorry this is going to sound harsh, but abortion is not a form of contraception.
I would say get rid of the man he is not good for you, every time you he gets you pregnant he leaves you and he cheats on you, you can do better than that. Do not let him treat you this way.
Only you can decide to have this baby or not. If you really do not want the baby have you thought of having the baby adopted?
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