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writes: All names are made up! - She was one of my best friends who was going out with another good mate of mine, they lasted 2 years but broke up 2 months ago. He's 20 and she is 18.I have always been shy and very nervous and have never had a girlfriend but the last year I have gained confidence and have a really good group of friends now but coz I fancied this other girl for ages never realised I liked Amy till she broke up with my mate. Everyone seemed to side with him but I tried to stay neutral, however me and Amy got really close as she started confiding in me infact some of my m8's thought she fancied me! but to this day am unsure if that was true or not.The problem is about a month ago she went to yorkshire for the week to see her grandparents and my mate phoned her to say she had a month to get out the house (she was living with him and his mum and sister). She has no family down here, there all in yorkshire and her parents are in Cyprus. Anyways without telling anyone including my mate she unexpectadly turned up a few days later packed her stuff and moved back to yorkshire with her grandparents without saying goodbye to anyone! And what really sucks is that when she got back I was gonna suggest gettin a place with me coz she kinda hinted it before she left but I got kinda distant with her coz I didnt want to fall out with my mate's. She has been gone for a month and we have text a few times but she keeps avoiding simple questions like whether she's happy there, makin friends etc. and I know her well enough to know if she's avoiding the questions it means she aint happy there, and I think she feels betrayed by everyone including me coz I got distant towards the end. the last text I got from her I had asked her all these questions about whether she's happy there etc. but her reply was that she has a new job but that's it. I text back "I'm never gonna see you again am I?" trying to hint I want to see her again but she never replied which was a week ago and really a bad sign I know! I am seriously considering going to Yorkshire which is 80 odd miles away but I have no car and no address the only way I could get it would be from Amy or the guy she broke up with, obviously I cant ask him coz he would get pissed off, He seems to have moved on, i mean he has had 3 flings since she left and seems to be having the time of his life where I feel like shit lol! I could ask Amy saying I want to visit her but I want it to be a suprise, my m8 Julie txt her the other day so hopefully Amy gave her the address but I havent seen Julie yet, hopefully will tmrw nite,But should I even go? That's what I need to know? I might get my heart broken but at least I would know where I stand and am like 60% certain something could have happened between us If she had stayed and i had made more of an effort.What do you guys think? I will really appreciate the help coz I'm so depressed at the moment losing sleep and all sorts, I hate going out with my mate's knowing she won't be there :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): Try to get one of her friends to either get the adress through her or one of her family members in Cyprus.You could text her and tell her that your planning to stay for a few days prety soon,with in the month but your not sure of the date yet, then ask for the adress,then say I'll call before I leave so you'll know I'm coming.You can then stop in when ever and not call,and its still a suprize b/c she didn't think you were coming.The only bad thing is you wont now if shes in or not when you get there.Barrow a friends car to get down there.You may not tell them where your going though,b/c it could get back to her ex.In the end he'll find out thow b/c you'll be seen with her their. Unless you stay in York with her,but your school may be in the other place,work,home,and all the rest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): Try to get one of her friends to either get the adress through her or one of her family members in Cyprus.You could text her and tell her that your planning to stay for a few days prety soon,with in the month but your not sure of the date yet, then ask for the adress,then say I'll call before I leave so you'll know I'm coming.You can then stop in when ever and not call,and its still a suprize b/c she didn't think you were coming.The only bad thing is you wont now if shes in or not when you get there.Barrow a friends car to get down there.You may not tell them where your going though,b/c it could get back to her ex.In the end he'll find out thow b/c you'll be seen with her their. Unless you stay in York with her,but your school may be in the other place,work,home,and all the rest.
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