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writes:okay so I'll try and keep this short, I've been feeling really lonely and empty lately, my best friend (who has previously told me that he has liked me from the start) asked me out, I would normally say no but since I've been feeling so lonely I said I dunno, I went to see him on a Monday and he ended up kissing me (on my lips, neck and just above my chest) the thing is I would let him, then push him away and then I'd let him again (usually I would never let this happen but I guess the confusion got to me). So what I thought was maybe we should go out on a trial basis or something.I went to see him yesterday yet again I was having mixed feelings but I brought up the trial and he was like okay but then we ended up dry humping and I regretted it and told him to forget that this ever happened and now I'm not sure what I want I'm so confused this is a mess, any words of advice it would really help thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): It will hurt him to call this off now. But it will eventually hurt him a lot more if you don't call it off. You don't want him, you just want someone and he is right there.
You may not even want someone right now. You really sound confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): err , he's your best friend, don't mess it up by getting involved romantically especially as you're not feeling it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 October 2010):
You can't do this to a guy. You can't go out with him, let him kiss you, date you, dry hump you all on the basis of your own loneliness. Because it opens you up to being used, and makes it harder for him to understand where you're coming from.
If you are lonely, then address that in a different way. Start a class, meet new people, go out with friends on the basis that you don't kiss or have sex with or whatever.
But don't play games with a guy based upon your loneliness. That's not fair. Date a man when you want to date him and you fancy it. And given that you regret this already, it's best to stop it now.
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