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writes:I'm from the uk, and I moved to australia with my boyfriend a couple months ago. I'd quit university in the uk, after a year and a half, because I felt like I'd chosen the wrong course, under pressure from my family, and it was incredibly stressfull and unfufuling. Anyway, since we moved to australia, I've been regretting more and more not finishing a university education (although I'm glad I quit the course I was doing, I wish I had a degree)I was talking about it to my boyfriend a few days ago, and he said 'well, why don't you go back to the university then?'I thought at first he was trying to break up with me, by suggesting I go to the UK, but then he said we could stay together and have a long distance relationship, where I go see him in australia for 3 months in the summer.I've looked at some courses, and found an english lit course that looks amazing; intresting, challenging, the kind of thing I would love.But, three years is a long time to only see my boyfriend for a couple months a year. I don't know if we would make it, and that thought makes me really sad, 'cos I love him to pieces.I've tried to talk to him about how he thinks our relationship would work, but he just says things like 'if it would make you happy, go do the course!'I'm really,really torn about what to do!! Oh, and it's not an option for my bf to come back to the uk with me, 'cos he has a work contract, and I can't afford the university fees over here. Any opinions, tips on long distance relationships,or thoughts would be great!
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (1 November 2009):
 There is an easy compromise - you could do a degree in the UK by distance learning and stay in Australia if you wanted to. You maybe able to trade in the University education you have already done (credits for modules passed) to speed up the time to graduation. My husband is doing a degree by distance learning because he works full-time and it is ok - you get all the course materials and it is much cheaper than the fulltime on-campus courses. Your graduation certificate doesn't say it is distance learning either. You can search on hotcourses.com for suitable courses if you wanted to go down this route.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (1 November 2009):
 not knowing either of you its hard to give a definitive answer, but he certainly sounds supportive.
I say go for it and give it your best shot! If the relationship is going to fail over you following your dream then it probably would have fallen in a heap at some stage anyway.
Also, he could probably take advantage of the cheap flights that come available every so often and pop over to the UK and visit you once a year as well.
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