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writes:It's about a relationship advice...Hello, call me StuPiD.CuPiD. Here's the thing, I've been seeing my boyfriend for 2 years now, I really love him, and he does too... Only that his parents are actually forbidding him from seeing anybody since he comes from this family which always have arranged marriage (still have this at modern age ha? yeah, it's true...) I wanna marry him and spend the rest of my life with him... But I don't want to put him under pressure of having to choose between me and obeying his parents, I know it's a hard decision for him to make... At the same time too, I don't wanna lose him...This is a matter of me giving up or trying harder... (For him, he already made a decision he said, but he never said to me what he'll do, but as for me, I know obviously he would choose his parents over me... sadly...)Should I give up? But I'll die without him...Should I stay and fight? But will it worth it if he still choose his parents from me?Do help me guys...Love,StuPiD.CuPiD Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 November 2008):
Well if he so under the rule of his parents that he is not allowed girlfriends at all then I think this might be a lost cause.
If he is not even prepared to risk annoying them by telling them he has met you then I think your situation is hopeless.
I'm sorry sweetheart, I really am. You are just not top priority to him.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, CuPiD.StuPiD +, writes (15 November 2008):
CuPiD.StuPiD is verified as being by the original poster of the question [Emilyanswers] thank you for your advise, but his parents is not living in the same country as I do... He came here to study only, then he'll go back to where he belongs after he finished... So I never know about his parents, and so does his parents... If it was up to me, I would have fly all the way to meet up his parents and ask myself for his hand for marriage from his parents... But he wouldn't let me... Obviously his parents would be very angry with him for being friends with me at the first place if they know about me...
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (13 November 2008):
Why not talk to his parents and find out why they would not consider you as a daughter?
Good Luck!! xx
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