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writes:Should I give my “friend” another chance? I met this coworker from my parents employer who is single like me and we started chatting - I work a lot so we developed a friendship. Long story short she is just as miserable as I am but also guy crazy. We were set to hang out one night and ditched me for a guy that was taken - she knew the guy had a gf and went after him. I told her I don’t ethically agree with that and we stopped talking (she has also slept with a married man) long story short she has apologized and want to hang out again. We always complain about our problems to each other so sometimes since I work a lot 80 hours a week it’s nice to have someoen to vent She lives at home and is in debt and her parents won’t let her go out past 8pm. She takes Xanax every night and drinks to forget about her problems and issues at home- I’m not sure why she won’t move out but I guess it comfortable to spend ur money u make and just make excuses?My question is right now I’m so busy to socialize working on savings moeny that I don’t have much of friends - so I don’t see the harm in having our with her once ina whileI am trying to get my life straight by being a physically/financially/mentally stronger person but is this gonna be an issue if I hang out with this person once in awhile ? I get she is not a trustworthy person but I’m not her I wouldn’t do those things
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2018): How can you work on yourself and get your own life in order; when you insist on running with the devil?
She is a totally bad-influence, and she will drag you down to the bottom with her. Drinking while on prescribed medication is asking for big trouble.
I don't know what you see in her? Misery shouldn't like company that's more miserable. It needs to be uplifted, sorted-out, and worked out of your system.
Somebody like her is not a good source of inspiration or motivation. She's a hot mess! Didn't your mother ever tell you not to hang with the bad crowd? Their nasty habits rub-off!!! They eventually talk you into doing what they do! You'll start eyeballing her Xanax! Put distance between you!
If you need to vent, call and chat now and then. Stop hanging with her, or you'll become her evil-twin. You'll become known as the hot-mess sisters!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2018): You don't have to agree 100% with how she is and what she does as long as it doensf effect you.. I have a friend who before settling down called herself the town bike .. But guys out knew we were completely different. If however they had thought other wise I would have went to pubs far far away with her that no one knew her e name .. so i dont see the problem. Let her make her own mistakes.
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