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writes:The situation is like this...I met this guy at a club about a month ago. I gave him my number. I wasn't really interested and I didn't really fancy him or anything I just gave him my number not to kill his ego and all that. He isn't bad looking though and he seems to be a nice guy. Anyway,I invited him over to my house. We talked and got to know eachother nothing more. (I have only just met him afterall plus I don't like him in that way). He kissed me. He seems to like me a lot. He's very keen. He calls me at least twice a week. I am single and I do want a boyfriend but I have never had one and the guys I have tried to be with...let's just say I have had bad experiences with them. I want to have a boyfriend but if I get with this guy I will feel like I am with him for the wrong reasons. I don't fancy him and he isn't really 'my type.' You know, so if I do get with him I will feel like I'm settling for less.But truthfully I'm so desperate for a boyfriend and for someone to love me that I will get with almost any guy. A guy I don't even fancy hoping that eventually I will.Why? Because the guys that I initially take a liking to (like the guys in my past) they just end up using me for sex knowing full well that I wanted more. So yeah, it's kind of like if I get with this guy then maybe for once in my life a guy will actually genuinely like me/love me instead of just use me. So I shouldn't let the opportunity pass me by. And the next thing now is, wait for it... He's 43 and I'm 18. I honestly did not know that he was 43 when I met him that night at the club.He doesn't look all that old. Though he is old enough to be my dad! His age isn't really a problem for me because I do like older guys, but do you think it would be wrong of me to get with him? Do you think I should give him a try? Should I let him pass me by and find another guy? Hey that rhymes! lolCan anyone help me and give me some good advice? I would really appreciate it. Thank you one and all. :) Reply to this Question
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reader, readmychops +, writes (2 November 2006):
Hi there, im with a guy 23 years older than me, we have been together for 2 1/2 years, when i first met him i was really unsure, so many people freinds and family was so concerned about his age, however there was something about him that i really liked. you need to make your own mind up. it was really hard for me an still is i mean we have different views on everything but we like the same things and get on so well. im so glad i listened to me and not others, life is to short to worry what others think do what you think and feel. you need to be strong with any relationship you no when its right
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006): I think this guy is old enough to handle the truth, ie: you should tell him pretty much what you have told us.
You never know - you might not be attracted to him because he IS a nice guy who is right for you - you might be unconsciously protecting yourself from opening up your feelings to him that is why you think you don't like him in that way. If he is the right guy for you, you should be able to talk to him about your situation, worth a try!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006): I think he is too old for you and probably will hurt you and use you for sex just like the other guys....I am closer to his age, and any 43 year old man who is taking up with an 18 year old is a lech, you are so young and pretty, find a nice guy who is your type and closer to your age before you let this one screw you up....don't be desperate for a boyfriend, just date around not sleep around and you will find your type by being friends first...guys want a girl they can respect and trust not just sleep with...hang in there, dearie.
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