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writes: I was very much in love with my bf but he dumped me and lied about his reasons and really hurt me. We're getting on really well at the moment and we may get back together, but I'm still damaged by the pain he caused even though he's apologized and I've forgiven him. I can't trust him anymore, but I want to be with him again. Should I go for it because he makes me happy, or forget him and move on (the difficult option) because he screwed up and the damage will possibly never heal?
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reader, clara +, writes (24 May 2006):
i was in the same postion as you currently find yourself and i had to give him up i still love him to this day and always will but going back to an ex rarely has a happy ending, my advice is be cautious he may have said sorry but can u trust him now? and if it happended all over could you cope a second time? if you can honestly answer yes to those question give it a go but dont fall for him quickly build it up as if it were first time all over again. good luck keep me posted x x
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (23 May 2006):
 Hi there,
You poor thing, I hope that you are starting to feel a little better after what he lied to you about. Being lied to is never fun, especially when it is something as hurtful as his reasons for ending the relationship with you.
Is he truely sorry for what he did to you? Is this the first time he has lied to you? If it is and you just can't let him go just yet, then throw your inhibitions to the wind and give it another shot. Life is too short to sit around wondering 'what if' so obviously your heart is telling you that you do want him, but it is your head and your pride that is having difficulity finding that trust again.
I did something really terrible to my partner and we took a weeks break from each other so he could figure out if he could be with me and trust me again. Even after a week he wasn't sure, but didn't want to throw away what we had built up over the past 5 years. Even now, 3 months later, he is still not 100%. So the point in me telling you that is that time really does heal MOST wounds. So give yourself some time, and if you really do think he is worth this, and you honestly believe with all your heart and soul he WILL NOT hurt you like this again, then go for it and don't look back. Let bygones be bygones and try to move on and hopefully that trust will grow back.
Let me know how things go okay :o) xxx
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