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36-40,
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writes:Okay, 3 months ago my boyfriend broke up with me. Occasionally, he'd tell me he wanted to get back together, but then he'd "change his mind." Now, he's saying he wants to be together again.. and he sounds sincere this time. He says I just have to wait a little bit longer so he can be more ready to have a relationship. The reason he says he needs more time is because... after we broke up, I found out I was pregnant. He did not deal with it at all; he just ignored me and treated me horribly and told everyoen that I was making it up for attention. I ended up losing the baby :( and he says he just needs time to "get over it" (the pregnancy.. cuz he thought it was the most horrible thing that could ever happen). Does it make sense that I should wait? He says I dont HAVE to wait, but as soon as he's ready, he says he's "coming after me and will make sure I'm his". But, does it make sense to give him that time to get over the whole situation?Thanks!
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (18 March 2007):
 Hi Babe
Yes,give him his space he probably freaked out when he knew you was pregnant maybe he is not as ready as you are to settle down, it does take men a little longer than us women to make that final commitment. But your still young and have many years a head of you yet so think about your future...
Don't ring him give him time to work out what he really wants he sounds like he does want you but maybe he is scared that it is going too fast for him, you need to let him know by not contacting him that you respect him and will get on with your life in the mean time...
If he loves you trust me he will let you know babe he will come back if not then you need to decide what you really want, but in the mean time don't freak out about it kep busy go out with friends find plenty to do and enjoy life its great when you give it a go,
Good luck babe wish you well,
Go out there in that big wide world and let your hair down and enjoy,
Let me know how you get on babes,
Donna x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2007): My advice would be to forget a relationship with this guy and hold out for someone who knows your true value. Dont wait for mr indecisive who, for all you know is window shopping for a better model. Look after yourself and go get what you deserve. If hes left you this time, it will very likely happen again, and who wants that out of life?
Best wishes
J
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