A
female
age
30-35,
*abyPorsh
writes:Hello Everyone,Im dating my boyfriend for 8 months now and everything was going well until the past few weeks. He doesnt call when he says he will and when I ask him why he tells me he fell asleep before he could. We have had a huge fight about him being passive in our relationship lately and I ended up breaking up with him, he was in denial about the break up and I took him back after a week. He improved after that but now he has slipped back to his old habits. We both work and he uses that as an excuse as to why he never comes to see me.I asked him if he's happy in our relationship and he said yes and if he wasnt he would have said something. He does not want me to break up with him because he says he loves me but his actions speak a different story. I feel like Im the only one trying to make us work. If I stop calling him he will call after a few days asking if he's done anything wrong to deserve my silence.It does sound like he cares and I feel his love whenever we are together, but his being distant is confusing me.Should I leave him alone for a while, like give some 'space'? Should I stop calling, and making so much effort. I will appreciate any response:)Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, Apparition  +, writes (24 February 2010):
Perhaps you need to think whether you're truly happy in a relationship like this or not, as from what you've written it appears that you're unsatisfied with this current situation.
I've always believed that if a man really wants to see you, he will do so, and you shouldn't have to be making all the effort as he will want to at least take some time out for your relationship. If his behaviour when you are together is enough to sustain the relationship and you could be happy with that, then continue with how things are. However, if you have already made your dissatisfaction clear to him and he still does nothing, you may find yourself to be increasingly unhappy with him if this is a source of disappointment. If this is the case, perhaps you should end the relationship and find someone else who will appreciate your company more.
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