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writes:My husband and I are on a 2 week cruise.I do not like to dance but my husband does. Every time we are on a trip, he goes to dance.Is it okay for him to go to the disco on the ship once or twice to dance? Seeing that he likes it and I do not. Even if he asks women to dance, it should be fine, right? It is just dancing. I would rather just go to sleep at the end of the night. And I do not want to seem like a party pooper and tell him he cannot do something he enjoys.Should I give him my permission to go out to dance once or twice while I go to bed? It is a vacation and we do things separately too sometimes and I hate to not give him his freedom just to do stuff he likes. I have taken a tour on my own because it was not his "thing."What does everybody think? He will pick up some chick on the dance floor and have a one night stand?Or just go to dance and have fun without crossing any lines?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2014): Thank you to all for your answers.
It's the OP.
My husband used to dance in competitions. I met him in Spain on a vacation with my sister. We watched him perform in a competition. We travel the world together and go on many cruises. He has always found dance partners on every trip. Many times I am there too and sometimes I joined in. But sometimes I am too tired at night so I would rather go to bed.
Yes I trust him. So I have no issue with it. I guess I can be insecure sometimes because I am not pretty like some of his female dance partners used to be. He assures me it is just something he likes to do and it does not affect our relationship or how much he loves me. But sometimes insecurity creeps up when I see him dance with other women.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (4 November 2014):
 Why not?
Has he cheated before? Do you not trust him?
Are you his wife or his mother? ?Now that might sound rude but you are BOTH two grown up and HE should be ABLE to go dance without cheating. However, If you really FEAR that dancing will lead to cheating why not go with him? WATCH him dance or dance with him?
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reader, SimpleSoul  +, writes (4 November 2014):
 I do hope you will listen, if someone loves dancing as your husband does, he will dance with partners. This in itself does not matter, but does he partner you in any other way - do you share any excitement together? because if not a 2 week cruise could spell a two week disaster!
If I were you I would go down and dance with him, if you cannot fair enough, but on your return to land I would make a definite point of sitting down together and working out what you both need, otherwise I think you are both in trouble.
Very good luck - maybe relate.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (3 November 2014):
 I think the purpose of the trip is to enjoy each other. As long as you can spend enough quality time together, that's what it matters. A lot of marriages are parallel marriages. It's good that you feel free to do your own thing, but what would make you feel confident is that your marriage is still solid, and the focal point is you two, not what you can each get by doing things separately. If you get tired, then of course sleep, but if you become so distant from each other that you can't even make good love while on vacation, then I would worry he's going to cheat.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (3 November 2014):
 If he's not a cheater he won't cheat. Cheating is a choice and this isn't his first opportunity to be alone with women! The question isn't if he will pick someone up for a one night stand, because he won't unless he is already a cheater. The question is just if you're comfortable with him dancing with other women. If yes, go for it. I don't see a problem with you requesting he not drink a lot while he's there if it would help you feel better.
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