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writes:Hello, I'm an 18 year old girl who is afraid to get into a relationship with another guy after my ex. I have had a boyfriend for around a year and a half who was my first crush and first boyfriend when I was around 15. When I was 17 and single I found someone else who I really liked and was convinced maybe naively that he would be 'the one' and I would just stay with him forever because the last guy wasn't right for me. He turned out to be a nasty guy who fooled me and when I found out I broke it off. I'm 18 and am kind of interested in someone else my age who I'm band mates with. I already feel shadowed with being hurt and taken advantage of by my ex. I feel like two is a high number for me for my age and although I like this guy who is my band mate, I don't think I'm ready for a third guy at least until I'm like 21. I'm not sure whether to show my interest in this guy who is showing interest in me because I do like him and am interested in seeing if anything is there, or keep our relationship as just a friendship because I don't know if I feel ready for another guy.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2014): Thank you for your message. Two is not a high number for your age , you are doing just fine. Do not hold off until you are 21, it sounds like you are a really lovely unjudging person but perhaps you need to ask yourself more questions.
It seems to me that you need not look at each guy as a potential partner,or someone who can fufill you long term. At your age you need to meet a variety of people to establish who you are really interested in. Think you are jumping the gun, relax and let go, go out with your girlfriends, and just allow things to take their course. I really believe your happiness lies in who you will meet in the future, not those in your past.
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reader, SimpleSoul +, writes (4 November 2014):
 Thank you for your message. Two is not a high number for your age , you are doing just fine. Do not hold off until you are 21, it sounds like you are a really lovely unjudging person but perhaps you need to ask yourself more questions.
It seems to me that you need not look at each guy as a potential partner,or someone who can fufill you long term. At your age you need to meet a variety of people to establish who you are really interested in. Think you are jumping the gun, relax and let go, go out with your girlfriends, and just allow things to take their course. I really believe your happiness lies in who you will meet in the future, not those in your past.
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