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writes:I have been seeing a man for 9 nine months and about four months ago, after I told him I loved him, he told me that there was nothing between us except a physical relationship and that he liked me a lot but didn't love me and did not see that he ever would.I started dating other men about a month later, but have not met anyone with whom I can be exclusive. I also pretty much stopped calling or emailing this guy and have come to expect nothing from him. I go out with him when he calls me and asks me out and when it fits my schedule and when I want to I still love him because I believe love is a choice and I choose to do so, but I have accepted what he has told me that we have no future.A couple of weeks ago this man said that something had changed about me and I told him that (pointing to my head) that something had changed "inside here." I said that I had finally accepted the fact that our relationship would go nowhere and I was OK with that.Now he's calling me a couple of times a day and treating me like I'm gold and he wants to know what I'm doing all the time. He hasn't been this way since the first four months of the relationship.Part of me wonders if he could be waking up to the fact that maybe he cares for me more than he will admit, but most of me thinks he's just realizing that I will be gone for good soon with someone else and it's killing his ego.So, do I consider the possibility that he could be changing his mind about me or do I just keep doing what I've been doing and slowing moving on with my life? Reply to this Question
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Yep, it's his ego. Believe the answer he gave you when he was not challenged by the threat of other men. He does not love you and never will. You have become a challenge to him now and that is all he's after, the chase. I'm pretty sure once he has you again he will repeat his harsh words. Besides, do you really want to spend years with this man always remembering those words "I don't love you and I never will." I couldn't live with those words, wondering every day...Keep on slowing moving away. Serves him right to lose you.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Dear Anon.
if this guy say he does not love you and never will, then that is what he will do, it seems that you are available for him when ever he phones, instead of going out and finding yourself a genuine boyfriend, of course he is going to say great thing to you, if he is getting his evil way with you, do not let him use you like this, you need to find a bf, who will love you in the same way as you love him, i would get this guy out of your life and find some one who cares for you heart and soul.
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