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writes:I dont know if i should give this guy a chance or not.. i was out with my friends for a night out and ended up getting quite drunk. I met this guy and we hit it off and made out for hours. But now I'm just not feeling 'it'. He has been calling me and stuff wanting to go out and meet up and i just dont think i fancy him. Should i give him a try or can someone help me find a way to let him down gently? I feel bad because it may seem like i was leading him on but i was drunk... i dont know what to do! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): Oh, he could actually be a decent guy. Believe it or not. You met under bad circumstances, but he's clearly taken an interest in you, something about you makes him want more, even if it was just a drunk make out session.
You could give him a shot. If he's sincerely interested in getting to know you, he could be a great guy (most guys would not bother calling someone they made out with while drunk, they usually never bother to remember enough about her). If you do meet up and all he wants to do is kiss or be physical, he's clearly not understood the rules of the game and in his naivety might think you kissed him because you like him (or he's just horny and wants to try his luck).
If you really don't like him, just say thanks for last night, but no thanks.
Btw, is he good looking? If he is you could go out with him just for the eye candy if nothing else about him turns out great.
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (13 February 2010):
 Funny how when we sober up, we realize things aren't what we thought they were! It's called impaired judgement. LOL
If you are not "feeling it" then, why bother?
But if you do want to "give him a shot," be sure to look for red flags! Your "gut" may be trying to tell you something! Always trust your gut!
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (13 February 2010):
Well if you were drunk and now you aren't sure you are feeling it - are you basing that on what you remember, or talking to him sober, or what? Are you just feeling embarrassed because you made out with a guy when you were drunk? I don't see the harm in hanging out with him for one date. Who knows, maybe you might see something in him after all.
Then if you are sure you aren't into him, you just tell him honestly look I think your great but I don't want to lead you on I'm just not feeling it. You deserve to give your time and attn to someone who feels the same as you do. He's not going to be crushed, it's only one date.
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