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writes:I like this guy in my college. Really like him in fact. Problem is, my best friend used to like him and although she claims to be over him and now has feelings for another guy,i don't know I don't believe she's fully over him. But another thing is, I honestly think we're more compatible than she could have been with him. Is that bad?I don't usually believe in star sign horoscope readings but they've been pretty accurate so far. Maybe and him have the same star sign, the same birthday actually, which is weird. We are apparently perfectly compatible in terms of star signs. But other than that we've always gotten along perfectly when we've spoken,we're both shy at first but not after, we laugh at the same things and have some of the same dislikes/fears. I really like him and have since when my best friend liked him, but I was obviously trying to convince myself that I shouldn't have feelings for him. My friend has strong feelings for another guy, but maybe she still has some feelings for him? Should I still get to know him further despite this? I have a habit of letting the guys I really like and even love get away and I always regret it. I don't want to regret this but I also don't know how to handle the situation...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Andie's ThoughtsWhat I mean is, I've had probably a handful of crushes and an extra two situations when ive been "in love" but ive always let something get in the way. Either I was too shy and he clearly liked another girl, or more likely my friend likes him and I don't want to be *that* friend who comes between things. My last crush I actually fell so hard for the guy that it took me two and a half years to move on from him (a year having passed since we had last spoken). So anyway, I was in love with him and did nothing about it because my friend (a different friend) liked him first and i didn't want to steal him or anything. Turns out he did like me the whole time and by the time I plucked up the courage to let him know that I liked him the whole time he had moved on and i was left heartbroken for a while... That's what I mean by letting guys get away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2016): Hi there, I was actually in a similar situation as you myself and I chose to believe my friend when she said she was over him. So I entered a relationship with him, which my friend had said she was okay with. However it really affected out friendship. I think she thought she would be okay with it until she saw us together and then realised her underlying feelings for him. So talk to your friend and make sure she really is okay with it. Tell her I you plan in going out with him and even during your relationship with this boy, keep checking that she's okay. It'll show her you still care about her feelings too
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 June 2016):
 First off if you value your friendship then you talk to her. Tell her how you feel and ask her would she be okay with you getting to know this guy more? The reason I say this is because friends are much more important than a guy. The thing is this guy might not even like you and then you will have lost your friend as well for being disloyal. So talk to her and see what she says.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (2 June 2016):
 Okay, I don't mean to be dismissive; it can be fun to believe in horoscope readings, but *never* make big decisions based off of them (at least not them alone). However, you seem like you may have a fair bit in common with this guy, so you need to ask your best friend how she'd feel about you asking him out. If she wouldn't be cool with it (read her body language, not just listen to what she says), you should consider if this boy is worth potentially losing your friend. If she says (and looks like) she's okay with it, it may be worth approaching the guy.When you say "I have a habit of letting the guys I really like and even love get away and I always regret it", what do you mean exactly?
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