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writes:Hey. Mothers day is this month and I'm a little stuck for as to what to do. My mum's mum (so my gran) died just before Christmas, as did my mum's dad (my grandad). He died literally two weeks after my gran did, so it was really sad and hard for my mum. I don't know what to do about mothers day. On one hand I'm thinking she's going to be feeling really sad because it's her first mothers day without her mum, but on the other hand I feel like I want to do something special because losing my gran has made me realise how important mums are and in a strange way it's made my mum and I become closer. Thoughts? I don't know what to do for the best. I don't want to make a harder day even harder by reminding her her mum is dead.
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reader, Legioness +, writes (8 March 2009):
 Wow, this is so similar to how I was feeling about mothers day last yea, see, last year my grandad passed away on new years eve, and my nan passed away 2 weeks later, but in the end I decided that I should really treat my mum, even though she was really down on mothers day, she said that what I done had really helped her through the day and took her mind off it. So yeah, dont be afraid to go all out this mothers day :D
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (7 March 2009):
 Oh my, your poor Mom!!! What an awful time she's going through and what a great daughter you're being to her. If you've got money to work with, maybe take her out for a pampering day - massages, facial, a manicure. Buy her something pretty, like a scarf or new blouse - that was she can really prioritize herself and feel beautiful.
If you're not working with much cash, I think that buying her flowers, cooking her breakfast... maybe taking her out for a new haircut (not too expensive, but still a nice change for her) would be fun. Take her to the zoo! Or the movies! Something out to distract her. Or, if she's not up to leaving the house quite yet, rent a favorite movie or have fun cooking a lasagna together.
Perhaps, you could do this with her or just by yourself, bring a flower to your grandma's grave. Giving some love to her might feel good.
My condolences to your family. Happy Mother's day. 3
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (7 March 2009):
 What I do every year is find a really fancy brunch menu, and make everything at home from scratch. I go the our market and find the most interesting and fresh flowers available, and create my own bouquet. Then I have my mom over just as I am pulling out a quiche or scones from the oven, and we sit down and have a beautiful morning, just mother and daughter. I don't know what your budget is, but I try to spare no expense. Also, my mom is not into receiving "things" and hates clutter, so food is what I always give her.
She might enjoy something akin to this, just nice and private. She will be thinking of her own parents, but being in a calm setting where she can cherish her time spent with you will hopefully remind her of all the good times she had with her own mom. I think you have the right idea, just spend quality time with her, because she is probably wishing she had had more time with her parents.
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