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writes:So my husband's ex-girlfriend (who is currently engaged) STILL cannot get over my husband. He does not speak to her, nor does he reply to her emails, texts, etc. Also, she drove by our house the other day really slow, and she lives about 15+ miles away. She has tried to add me as a friend on 2 social networking sites several times, saying "i promise i'm not trying to start any trouble. i just want to see how you guys are doing and what you are up to." He has told her to leave him and us alone, but it's like she won't listen. i have not said ANYTHING to her, but i'm at the point, I'm ready to say something because she will not stop. Am I in the right or wrong to say something to ask her to stop?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2010): OP here. Thanks for all the replies. And I seriously doubt her fiance knows what she is doing. He lives about 50 miles away from her. When she dated my husband she cheated and got caught 3 or 4 times. She lied about everything. She left my husband for another guy and he tried to get back with her for almost a year and she left him alone. When he and I met she tried her best to get him back while she was dating the other guy! She called my husband all the time begging him to come back, to come sleep with her, etc. She even went as far as having her dad call my husband begging him to take her back and telling him that marrying me would be a mistake. This happend the week my dad passed away from cancer and she knew he was dying. Shes a preachers daughter but shes pure evil!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2010): She sounds like a stalker, and stalkers are not normal, rational people. If you tell her off it will excite her. She will think that her actions are getting her somewhere because you took notice. In her demented world if she can get to you than she can come between you and your husband!
I agree with everyone that he should be the one to deal, but it sounds like her crazy is too much for him alone. He should seek a restraining order. To her, YOU are the problem. YOU are preventing them from being together. If you were not in the picture, they would be living happily ever after. So, she may be wanting to target YOU!
perhaps your husband could ask his ex's fiance to talk to her. Does the new guy even know what she's doing? Maybe she will listen to him. Show her that you wont play this game! Good luck and be safe!
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Why add wood to keep her fires burning.. leave her alone, ignore her, starve her of oxygen and she'll fizzle out.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 You have a right to tell her to back off but I think it is better if you let your husband handle this matter, unless he asks for your help.
No doubt, you feel the strong urge to intercede in this matter but you need to respect and have trust in your husband.
You will have to be more patient unless your life is threatened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2010): It sounds like your husband is doing a very good job at not giving her any reason to continue her behavior. You have every right to feel how you do and to feel inclined to do something about it, but I would just let your husband continue to deal with it, since he's on your side in all of this, and lets her know it's not right. She'll give up eventually when she realizes that she's not getting anywhere by driving by or trying to stay connected. If you have any children, I would keep a close eye on them though, since unstable people such as her will do various unrelated malicious acts, out of revenge or obsession. I don't want to sound startling, but in short, I wouldn't ever trust her, but I wouldn't go out of my way to breed more obsession from her by giving her any attention in return.
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