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writes:Update.I'm 16 and I am really attracted to this guy in my year. He is a very nice looking guy for his age but has different interests to me. He likes to drink and he used to smoke. In our area he is classed as a "ned". He makes out like he likes me and he is always complimenting me and is just generally nice to me. He asked me recently if I would have sex with him. I wasn't sure what to say becuase I know he is very experienced and I am still a virgin. I would like to say yes but I am worried thats all he is wanting me for. I still don't want to say no becuase I really like him and I think he is a really nice guy. And before you say ask him out...that isn't possible he isn't the type to date girls he prefers to hook up. Honestly should I take my chance and have sex with him or should I tell him I am not wanting to get involved with him?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (15 May 2008):
 Tell him that while he is so very attractive and you're flattered that he has asked you just to have sex with him, that you'd rather wait for a real boyfriend and relationship.
Unless you don't mind being added to his list of 'experiences' of course. I wonder if he talks about the girls with his friends? Hmm, I'll bet he does.
I guess it's really up to you if you want to have sex with a guy who only cares enough about girls to 'hook up' with them but not enough to actually date one.
If you do, make sure you use condoms so you don't catch anything from his previous 'hook ups' because there are some serious things getting passed around through casual unprotected sex.
Take care of yourself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): He just wants sex, your old enough to realise this
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): He wants to "hook" up with you. He's asked you to have sex with him. If you want sex, and want sex with him, then that's your choice. Your old enough under British law.
But that's all it will be. Just sex. Not a date, not a boyfriend, not someone you can introduce to your friends. He dosen't have to give you pleasure, he dosen't have to like you, he just wants sex. Probably won't talk to you afterwards, and will probably give your number to other guys who want a woman who is willing to give out sex at the drop of a hat. Cheaper than a prostitute and so easy to get. Have fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): Do not take a chance with him, he only wants sex. You stated: that isn't possible he isn't the type to date girls he prefers to hook up.
To go out as friends, platonic, is okay, but nothing else.
Also, this type of individual may not care if you were to get pregnant. At this age, he has little responsibility, and he knows it.
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