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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My ex and I broke up around 6 months ago because I generally felt as though he didn't make enough of an effort with me. We were together for 14 months and it was hard to break up with him because I did love him a lot. He desperately wanted us to remain friends, so we did and we continued talking a lot. The story between us has been very complicated since then. We've gone through rough patches where we don't talk but right now we are talking again and it seems that we could be getting back together (he has asked me, but I want to take it slowly and think things through before I make up my mind). So here's my issue. During these past months we haven't been together, I ended up dating one of his friends for a little while (who I became friends with in my own accord, so it wasn't out of spite or anything). My ex never found out, and we decided to end it because we didn't think it was worth hurting him. If I were to get back together with my ex, that would be hanging over my head. Also, I worry that I'm still going to end up dissatisfied in the relationship again and hurt him. Having said that, I really do love him despite all of this and the times when I am without him are when I am the most miserable.Should I get back with him? What should I think about to make sure I'm making the right decision? Do I deserve to get back with him, even though he might decide against it knowing that I dated one of his friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2013): I think you broke up because your relationship was broken...You deserve to be treated well and be happy with someone. Work through feeling alone and don't settle for less
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