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writes:Fifty-four year old female who's been married twice, divorced twice, and has four children. Two of whom just finished their third year of college, and my eldest just finished her second year of Med School.My first husband and I were together for twenty-six years, that's including the twenty-five year marriage. I had three of my four children with him. Two months after the divorce, I had a compeltely meaningles one-night-stand and it resulted in a baby boy. The man I slept with does pay child support and will continue to do so for another fifteen years.Seven months after my fourth and final child was born, I married a man I met way back in college but my first husband got to me first at the time. He was recently divorced at the time (this was three years ago) and he had fathered eleven children with his wife of twenty-five years.He currently has two grandchildren and another one the way. We divorced five months into our marriage and a year later, he remarried his first wife and apparently they are better than ever at fifty-five.I am happy for him and for the fact that my one-night-stand guy is a happy bachelor who is fifty-eight and has had ninety plus sexual partners. Wicked, I know, but some people just choose that lifestyle, I suppose.But what about me? My first husband has expressed many times that he wants me back and lord knows I want him back too, but what if our marriage doesn't work out again? We've been divorced for three years and neither of us can barely remember why we did in the first place.Should we take each other back? I know our children have also frequently expressed their thoughts and worries to us and my first husband has told me he does not mind at all, in fact, he wants to, help raise my three year old boy even though it isn't his. He understands completely that it was a meaningless night one night while we were divorced but my son is still beautiful to him.I feel silly and confused. Any thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): maybe this is your second chance in life.
some people would die for a second chance like this. what do you have to lose, except maybe it doesn't work out. but then you would have tried and maybe would have learnt and grown from yourpast mistakes, and your ex hb too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): Get back to him if you really love him and want to be with him for the rest of your life. How many times do you get the chance to be with someone you truly love and who truly loves you back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): Well, you were certainly together long enough to know what your problems were, and if you have both had enough time to think about them,..you maybe could make it work out. It is a plus that he is accepting of your youngest. Don't rush into it, but start with a courtship period. I don't know his relationship with the older ones, but that might be considered. They are pretty much on their own, now, so it is not that big a fctor, and it is still your life.
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