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writes: I have been dating a guy for about six months now. He is everything i have ever dreamt of, loving, caring romantic, sensitive, except:1. He rarely has time for me. We live 5 minutes drive apart, we are always free after 4pm but only meet about once a week, and thats at my suggestion and insistence.2. I miss sex and we rarely have it, and its almost always at my request.3. Whenever the topic of marriage is under discussion, even a friends marriage, he gets very uncomfortable, and sometimes almost getting upset.Am lonely and sexually starved, i have discussed with him but nothing happens. Am thinking of having a part time lover to keep me company, and possibly sex. This will make me stop bothering him for attention, and he likes it when am not clingy. This would inturn make the relationship more enjoyable for both of us (for as long as he never finds out). What do you think? is there anything else i could do apart from ignoring my feelings and discussing with him? I have tried both and failed. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHay
Thanks alot for the advice. I think its time to move on. YOu are right. I think its easier to for independent people like you gys to see the problem than me who is in it.
Thanks again....
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): He doesn't sound very interested in you,if everything has to come from you. I think you should dump him and then see if you want to meet someone else. It's hardly clingy to want to meet once a week!
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (6 November 2009):
It sounds like YOUR his part time lover. I deffinately think hes got another woman taking up the rest of his attention. If i was you i would end it.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (6 November 2009):
 Why a part time lover?? You need a new boyfriend!! I am in total agreement with the other Agony Aunts!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): Wendy, if he's only willing to see you once a week (even though you say "we are always free after 4pm"), then I would think seriously about dumping the guy! elpigaro said it perfectly: your guy is not meeting your needs...it's defintely time to let him go!
How "loving, caring, romantic, sensitive" can he really be if he's not willing to make time for you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): It sounds to me like you need another boyfriend.
Why settle for less. You may love him but if he doesnt meet your needs now, he wont in the future.
It will be hard but you can move on from this.
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