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writes: In my "group" everyone seems to have a b/f and they are all telling me to go out with a guy. I dont want to seem concieted or anything, but even if im nice to the guy and even if i dont thnk im pretty, ppl tell me im pretty, i cant get a guy! I don't wanna go into the streets looking for a guy. Also, valentines day is coming up and i really want to make this one special. The boy i like already has a g/f so....should i just go for a diff guy?( which is kind of hard to find) or just go single? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): can i just say thanks to that last guy who left a comment. I didn't ask the question but im in a similar situation. but i did feel like I NEEDED a bf, so i went out with people i didn't even like and i have ended up hurt. right now im single, and me and my best friend are looking forward to icecream, chocolates and DVDs this valentines day. WOOHEY! p.s. dont get sucked into the whole valentines thing-- its good if you spend it someone special but if not dont go finding anyone just for that one silly day!
(again thanx to that last comment--- TOO TRUE! i've had to copy and paste it into microsoft word just to keep it- hit the nail on tha head! lol)
xxx treat yourself!
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reader, Yos  +, writes (7 February 2007):
 To get a boyfriend because you feel you have to is a really bad reason to do it. It will lead to becoming desperate and going for the wrong guy, and ending up being hurt.
The reason your friends want you to have one is all about them, not about you. They want you to have one because it will make them feel better about their having boyfriends, not because it will make you feel any better. Also bear in mind that when they say they have boyfriends, they could easily be telling white lies. A real boyfriend is there for you, commited to you, and cares for you. I'd be surprised if many of your friends had that (especially because most teenage boys are pretty bad at being boyfriends, they're too busy being boys).
The right reason to get a boyfriend is because you want to, and because you want to with a specific guy. Wait until you meet someone that you really like (and who really likes you).
No boyfriend is much better than a bad boyfriend. You only need to look on this site to see how many young girls get very upset by hooking up with the wrong guy because they feel they 'have to have a boyfriend'. They almost all end up regretting it for a long time afterwards.
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reader, lboy  +, writes (7 February 2007):
 dear reader,
i don't think that you should pay all that much attension to your friends if they are pressuring you. if you want to find a guy then just go out somewhere with one of your girlfriends and have a drink and let the guys come to you, don't make yourself seem desperate but also don't give the example that you are already taken, just play it cool and if you spy a guy that you like then just give him the odd glance every now again, you know the one that stare that says 'come on, come over and ask me out on a date' and if it works then good for you. well thats all the advioce i can think of for now so bye-bye.
oh and if it works out then please write back and let us writers know cos we like to know that our advice helped you out.
good luck
lboy
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (7 February 2007):
 i think do what makes you happy. that way you will be immune to any negative remarks from your group. you are still very young to just go with a guy bcos everyone in your group has one. relax and live your life the way you see it fit, people say a lot of things and they dont remember a quater of it so dont follow the crowd be yourself make your own decisions because you are the only one who has to live with yourself sad or joyful for the rest of your life.
if another guy you happen to like comes along and ask for a valentine date then accept and enjoy yourself but have some boundries and fun, fun, fun.
jovial
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