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writes:Should I feel guilty if my girlfriend's personality changed, and as a result, lost my attraction to her?My girlfriend, who has anxiety, was prescribed some prescriptions to calm her recently. But I am worried they may change her, into a woman I did not fall in love with. This got me to even greater thinking, say what happened if your significant other changed into something they were not. Should you feel guilty if you are no longer attracted to them, or even, repulsed by them? Please be honest too. My girlfriend seemed upset when I talked to her, but I was being honest, since I don't want to lie to my girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): I actually had this happen to me.
my boyfriend was a fun loving caring guy, very sexy 6pack clean shaven.
due to medications his turned in to arrogant hateful person, over weight and depressed.
he is not the man I had fallen in love with anymore but I still stick by his side and care for him.
don't feel guilty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): I am not quite sure if you are saying that her personality did in fact change or that you are simply worried that it might. Worrying is a waste of time. Go with the flow. If and when the problem arises deal with it then...in any case, my answer to your question is, it depends. Sometimes when you get to know a person better and as time goes on, you see little quirks about their personality that you didn't notice before. Perhaps it is because they feel more and more comfortable around you. Maybe they go to the bathroom with the door open or they show you sides to themselves, nothing terrible, that you just didn't do before around each other, like pluck her eyebrows next to you. Nonetheless, they are still the same loving person. In that case, I would say it may be a bit shallow of you to lose interest because no matter what relationship you are in, at some point, everybody drops their guard a bit. However, other times in relationships, as time goes on, people show you their TRUE COLORS. Now this is different. Whereas at the beginning they were one person, say loving, sweet, attentive, etc. all of a sudden they are mean, inattentive, disrespectful, possessive. Like their whole personality changes towards you or towards life, or themselves, whatever. In this case, I would totally understand how you would be turned off. You fell in love with a sweet, loving, confident girl who all of a sudden is the opposite of all those things you loved about her. If this is the case I wouldn't blame you for feeling turned off. It happens. It's happened to me. It sucks.
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