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female
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30-35,
*oX15
writes:There is this guy in our circle of friends. We grew up in the same city and we know a lot of the same people in our city. We get along great. We have the same humor and we are always laughing. Our circle of friends is pretty close. So this guy, it's never really been a topic of discussion, but sometimes things like this just come up. He has tendencies...well, actually I'm not sure. His mannerisms are fairly feminine, more so than other guys. We actually call him a bitch sometimes. He does hang out with a lot of girls. Not that fashion is a homosexual characteristic but he is a pretty good dresser. A couple of the girls have remarked that he is "such a closet gay." Pardon any political incorrectness. Anyway, ever since the first time we met, we've gotten along great. He makes me laugh. I feel really comfortable around him. I can be myself with him. To be quite frank, I have the biggest crush on him. I am very flirty with him, and he dishes it back, but then...is it flirtyness, or is it sass? I'm totally confused. Even my own sister remarked that he may be gay. But sometimes...he flirts back. I'm old enough to recognize flirting. Or am i? I'm not sure if its flirting actually. But then, he could just be friendly. Ok, so earlier today, we were discussing marriage. I asked him if he preferred to marry a "girl" from his ethnicity...and he said "Um we'll see." And I asked about his family, and whether they had any preferences about who he marries, but he said they were very accepting and blah blah....I like this guy. But is he gay or not? I mean, I realize this is very complicated. I've never been in this situation. I don't know how to handle it. I like him, but what if he's gay? I can't just come out and ask him. I'm so confused. I just realized how much I like him today while we were hanging out.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 If I were you I would tell him you really like him and ask him if he would be interested in a relationship with you. Then you will have an answer to whether you should invest any more time thinking about him as a potential mate.
A lot of men are great dressers sensitive and awesome company but not necessarily gay. If he is gay and he wants to tell you about it he will do it when he's ready.
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