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writes:Thank you for for your hellp. ... not sure what to do at this point regarding my situation but any suggestions will help. What happened is that I've known this guy at work for about 4 years and we've talked as co-workers/friends all this time in person and their messenger. We both aware we liked each other a lot we talked everyday, sat close to each other, helped each other and things like that. We both know each other's life story I'm divorced, he's single and a few months he started talking to me about his girlfriend and that she's expecting his baby. After this, he asked me for my number and I gave it to him. And eventually he invited me to his house and I went I know I should've not gone but I did and yes I stayed the nite, After that we are still calling each other thru what's up and here's been nice and he even invited me over this past Saturday but I couldn't go because I had to take care of my son. Today for break at work. He invited me again to go out on thurs with him. And he told me it has to be on Thursday because next week my sister in law and her fam are staying over his ap. Then after that he's traveling for his baby's birth. And then when he travels back his brother is coming back with him and staying over too. So he said we won't be able to see each other... am I right. He's cutting me off? I knew and am aware is not right for us to keep it up and Should I just end it like I'm feeling right. Ow? Or go with the flow? Thanks for your suggestions
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 July 2017):
You said he is single and he has a GF... that doesn't really make sense. Either he is SINGLE or he is NOT.
He wasn't single. He was/is in an LDR and SHE is pregnant. Why on EARTH would you get involved in drama like that? And with someone you WORK with?
PUT yourself in his GF's shoes for a minute - HOW would you feel being pregnant and your BF is screwing around with someone else? Some office fling?
Yes, you should end it. YES, you should have some COMPASSION for the GF.
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (25 July 2017):
 he is the lowest of the low, he turned a work friendship into using you when his GF was expecting his baby, WHY is his not living with her? Did you know about he having a GF before you went over to his place if so you need to take some of the blame, but it looks as he is or was using you.I think Code Warrior asking you to put yourself in the other girl's place is the thing to do, there are many other good men out there looking for love why would you think for a moment that you should waste your time with this guy
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2017): He used you. You were available and willing. He's now taking on his responsibilities. Being around family tends to make you remember your family-values. Now all his family is aware of his baby on the way, and they're probably expecting him to step-up to the plate. He may even be contemplating marriage to the mother of his child.
There's no flow to go with. He's turning his time and energies towards family, and preparing for the birth of his child.
You were temporarily friends with benefits. Now remove the extra benefits, suck it up, and remain friends and co-workers. If you can't, start searching for a new place to work. He has a child on the way, he's not likely to do that.
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reader, anyonymoustennisgirl +, writes (25 July 2017):
I would end it. I hate to put it this way, but he's clearly trying to have more than his fair share. He doesn't need this many women in his life. If he has a baby with another woman and is still in contact with both of you, that could become more complicated than you could have bargained for. If he's going to end it soon anyway, don't give him that chance! End it first and let him know that you're not just there as his convenience!!!! Good luck!!!! YOU'VE GOT THIS!!! Hope I helped :)
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (25 July 2017):
 It is starting to sound complicated. I would just not bother anymore. You don't have to make a big deal over it - just don't bother making contact.
If he tries to get you into bed again at some later date I think you should consider other options before saying yes. You don't want to end up another notch on his bed head.
In my experience when a man finds someone he likes then he doesn't make excuses why he can't see her. He leaps tall buildings and breaks down walls to be in her company.
The fact that his girlfriend is expecting a baby? Doesn't that tell you something? He probably hadn't had sex for months until you kindly obliged.
Take care of yourself and don't let this person mess with you.
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