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anonymous
writes:Just under a year and a half ago me and my ex broke up. I thought he was going to end things with me as he had stopped telling me he loved me, but this turned out not to be the case he was just struggling as we had gone into a long distance relationship a few months before and he was really struggling with being away from me so much. By the time I knew this the damage was done. However, even though we had broken up we were still talking to each other every day like best friends. Then a few months later when he came back into town we shared an intimate moment following which we decided it shouldn't happen again unless we were going to get back together. The day he left again we got into an argument about what had happened with me throwing my feelings on the line saying I wanted to get back together but he didn't want to go through the long distance again. We still talked often but not as much as before. I started getting close to an old friend and began sleeping with him he wanted a relationship with me and while I felt a connection I felt I couldn't because of my feelings for my ex. It started to seem to me like my ex was moving on and I realised I was putting my life on hold for the chance we might get back together so I decided to give things a go with the other guy. We have been together 8months now. My ex seems to be avoiding me since around the time I told him about the new guy who I know is someone he doesn't like much. Despite the fact that in general the new relationship is going quite well I still think about my ex every day even though we do not speak anymore. sometimes it gets too much and I feel guilty and want to end my relationship but then I think that my ex may not even be the same person I used to know and that I'd be giving up on something good. I really need some advice from an outsider as all my friends are too close to home.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2015): Personally I wouldn't end what you know is good for something you can't be sure is going to happen at all or work if it does happen. Your ex seems to go away a lot and if this was the reason for the initial breakup no doubt it will happen again.
As the saying goes, the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
Good luck with your future whatever you decided to do :-) J x
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