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female
age
30-35,
*olaBolla
writes:There's this really popular, extroverted guy who is impossibly shy around me. I'd understand if we hardly knew eachother, but we've been "friends" for well over 3 months, and we went on a study abroad trip in the same group. The more he gets to know me, the shyer he becomes (stuttering, blushing, ignoring me deliberately). He's becoming increasingly more self-conscious around me. According to a mutual friend, he has a soft spot for me.Every time I txt him/ fb him, he basically forces me to carry the conversation. This has gone on for about a month. I've started ignoring him back even though he comes and stands next to me (but doesn't say hi!!!) because I'm so fed up with his cyclic bullshit. I really don't know what to do at this point, because this seems to be his issue, correct? He needs to make SOME effort to get over his insecurities right? I'm tired of always having to start convos.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): I'd give up thinking too much about it. Be friendly and assume you are just friends without this underlying issue. Don't text him. He may have a soft spot for you who knows but for now I'd let it go. Just be natural around him in a casual way. Who knows what going on in his head. You can do no more than that I would say.
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