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writes:I met this guy five years ago, we broke up two years ago but still kept in touch for a year. We had a huge arguement last year, he went away with another girl by the end and we stopped talking, contacting... we even pretended didnt see each other if we met in st. I met some other guys after that,had a couple of dates, but admit do think about him still. Things have been changed a little bit this year, I met him once again at work by accident, we started to talk again and both apologized for th stupid arguement before; seems we become back normal friends, but we are both very polite now, too polite somehow... when he came the other day to talk about something at work, I could feel he still has some feeling on me; however I know he has a new gf now and they stay together. My question is, should I drop an email or a msg to ask for a catch up just like a friend?? I dont know what does he think? but I somehow can't really help myself these days. Please advice.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (2 September 2007):
 I think that by sending the email is going to cause unessesary friction for everyone. You both have a past together, have shared intimate moments, so you know that its not going to stop at just meeting up as friends and catching up.
Im sure his current girlfriend would not be to happy with him meeting up with an old flame. Don't be the cause of him breaking up with her, let things take their course, and if in the future you hear they have broken up then send the Email, but for now leave it.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2007): no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, Escalaya  +, writes (2 September 2007):
 If he has a girlfriend, just catch up as friends. If you still care about him, it's within reason to ask him if he still has feelings for you, however, he does have a girlfriend, and I'm sure no one likes to have their boyfriend stolen from them, so please do not interfere with their relationship, let it run it's course.
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