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41-50,
*ichel
writes:Hi to everyone. I have my conscience troubling me and find I'm unable to cope and even sleep! My friend(female) who I didn't liked much, but have been in a certain relations this past year, and I don't know why, simply find it hardly to dump her, I always miss the occasion and left the words buried in myself, is getting married soon. I've just had personal contact to this man once and cannot conclude anything, but by the actions he does, it appears as very sensitive, loving, caring man, who only wants to have a happy family and a wife who loves him. He is about 46 and as I know, never been married before. However, my friend in a communication we had, revealed how he is well enough off and how she plans to have some moments with him and run off wealthier from that. She is really manipulative, all that she does in her life is taking not giving anything, I know her past relationships in which she has been scrubbing from the man she was with as much as possible, and than left them, but this time is different. The previous ones were for fun and I didn't mind that, but now my conscience is troubling me - Whether to warn this man and point out that he should think carefully before making such decisions or to let it go.They have only known one another for a month or so, and had some closer relations a bit. He is from a different country and does not know her past, actions anything about her, the picture she might be giving him is probably totally opposite of the real one.She is 43 and at times I think it might change her heart and mind and decide not to hurt him, but this thing troubles me... Should I draw his attention to this matter... Or not? Help pleaseee!!!
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reader, samohir  +, writes (30 October 2007):
 Just want to Thank all of you for your answers.
Think I will follow the advices you have given me not to get involved at all.
Probably is temporary feeling, like You ree seeing somebody who Can get hurt and not doing anything, But i agree they are adults and should think as Ones.
Maybe it will happen He to hate me for not paying him attention, It happened before, but its none of my business i would agree.
Thanks to all of you, were very helpful, since i had hard time deciding whether to tell or not, and Your opinion have made a great deal of good job to me.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (30 October 2007):
 Hello.
It would not be a good idea to get involve in this situation, they are both adults and he will soon see through her rouse at some point, if you get involved then it will seem that you are the ex who has been dropped by her and you will look pretty desperate, think you had best stay out of this situation.
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reader, samohir +, writes (30 October 2007):
I dont understand why Her taking advantage of Him, so much concerns you?She is after his money, if i read properly, not after urs. I can understand that you might feel badly by not paying attention to him, But if she is that kind of person why you re befrending her still?
That is confusing.
You might be good-natured and He might think that she is a wonderful woman. In my opinion, you should not tell him anything,Thats theirs problem and he is enough mature, 46 to decide on the matters of his life.
If you want to show that she is not as he is expecting her to be, distance her, In this case I think you re more frustrated becauuse you have such friend than That Some distant Man might get hurt.
Maybe im not right, who knows?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): Nothing to do with you.
He's a big boy, and needs to learn by his own mistakes.
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