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writes: I'm with my boyfriend nearly 2 years and we were in bed on Sunday evening and having a real heart to heart chat about various things in our lives... He was saying that he doesn't want to buy/build a house as he is afraid of the committment of it all. He also said that he doesn't ever see himself getting married - again it's the committment thing. He has a son (9) from his previous relationship and if it wasn't for him he wouldn't be living in Ireland he would be in Australia - that's his biggest dream!!! Before he split up with his ex they were talking of moving to Oz for good!!! Am I just wasting my time with him? He does love me as he's after telling me that many times and I love him but... I don't know if there's a future for us if he feels like that? I just need some other people's views and advice on this...
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reader, sexi  +, writes (2 November 2007):
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There is a way that you need to bring up the topic. Dont make him feel that you are pressurizing him into giving ou a commitment just make it seem like you want to knoe his opinions and views. I understand that you dont want to chase him away ( which you would do if you come on too stong) so just be suttle. You have a right to know what to expect in the relationship.Good Luck
Hang in there,you would get through this
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone who responded to my question...
I'm afraid that I'll loose him for good if I say anything to him tho? What we have is good, very good!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe're both in our early 30's to the reader that asked about our ages... No it hasn't ever come up before in conversation. Maybe I'm just over reacting a bit...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): Its your move.
you run he chase, (towards commitment)
or you run he not chase and you run back
Then you back at square one.
Or you run and not return. And start afresh, without some weird man friend in the background to mess up your next attempt at relationship.
I'd go for Last one.
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reader, angelblueeyes  +, writes (30 October 2007):
 Hi,
Firstly you should talk to him and tell him that you want more from your relationship and if he can t give it to you, you will be moving on, there is no point wasting your life with a man that cant commit to you!!
If at the end of your chat he wont give you commitment maybe it is time to walk away and find someone who can give you the same in return, If he truely loves you he won't let you just walk out of his life.
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reader, sexi +, writes (30 October 2007):
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You havent mention yourlls ages - You should just give him some time. Dont keep mentioning the topic. Give him time to adjust to yourll relationship. You have mentioned another child from a his previous relationship - This could be a reason for his lack of commitment.He is scared (possible hurt) from his past experiences. After you feel that you have given him enough time then you should bring up the topic again and if he still feels that way then you should consider getting out of that relationship as you both want different things. You want something that he aint willing to give so you should leavr before you put too much into the relationship. Have yourll discussed this before or is this the first time that the topic has come up? I just wanted to let you know that my sister has had the same experience but she gave her bf time and he eventually committed to her (they have a relationship of 4 and a half years). Maybe that is all your relationship needs - Time. Hope this helped.
Regards,mail me if you wanna chat
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