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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've really liked this guy for 2 years now - I told him about a year ago, and we've endured some troubles over this period in coming to terms with our bisexual statuses, of which has resulted in some bad arguments. During this time, he met a girl and enjoyed a flirtacious period with her - the girl really liked him, but he assures me he never liked her. Over the summer we decided to start seeing each other, and it was generally a perfect, wonderful time. The flirting he had shared previously however continued, and indeed started up with another girl. After pointing out that this was sending out bad signals to me he stopped, however she still likes him and is heavily pursuing the opportunity to be in a relationship with him. Meanwhile, I've recently had to move away until Christmas. I trust that he likes me, and I trust he won't cheat on me, however I doubt his commitment to me. This is primarily because I know that hes had to almost force himself to be with me, and weigh up his desire to be a biological father. He also points out that I don't make him laugh, whereas this girl and other people do - I feel inadequate. Furthermore, he has failed to properly put down this girls advances in the past, however everytime something happens and I say how I feel, an argument ensues. Their friendship is getting closer, and I'm fine with friendship, as I haven't been jealous of any of his female or male friends - so I don't consider myself to be a jealous type. I don't want to lose him, and I know a lot of this is down to me being jealous for no reason. However, I can't keep feeling the way I'm feeling, and I don't know what more he can do to make me feel secure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2012): Dont be naive. I married my high school boyfriend and never thought of being jealous, after 26 years of marriage, my husband had an affair with a friend from the past found on Facebook and it has destroyed me in many ways. I don't trust him. He has taken my security away, they both did. At my age, I should not be feeing jealous, insecure, worthless because I have accomplished a lot, but this betrayal has set me back and I am trying to pick up my shattered pieces. PLEASE, if something is bothering you then you need to take action; otherwise, you will be sitting where I am sitting right now in viewing articles on how to recover from betrayal.
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