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writes:I'm a 55 yrs old married woman for 20 years. Recently, my husband diagnosed with prostage cancer. Now he's in therapy and we weren't able to have sex at all. I happened to bump into my ex boyfriend in high school. He's a widowed now and available. I told him about my situation of how I haven't had sex for moths now. We decided to meet up at an hotel for sex. He's 64 yrs old, but he can really perform! Plus he has a big dick. Bigger than my husband. I really enjoy having sex with him. Now we meet every two weeks for sex. My husband don't know that I cheat on him. My question is that, I don't know what to do now. I don't know if I should divorce my husband and live with my exboyfriend. I know that my ex boyfriend wants to be with me.
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reader, 48years  +, writes (16 December 2008):
 Whew!
Going without sex isn't easy-it's only once every 2 weeks...and what your hubby doesn't know won't hurt him, right?
If you really believe all of this, wait till hubby dies before you move in with your boyfriend. At least honor him that way.
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reader, Rhandy  +, writes (15 December 2008):
 go back to your husband, have a set with him and talk everything you desire and needs, Dont let the flesh ruin your marriage, flesh will be vanished on this earth but the happiness you brought to your husband will remains forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): You say your ex is your frist love and your husband and you have had ups and downs for the last 20 years. I get that. But the fact is, if you married your ex, you'd have gone through an equal number of ups and downs. So, comparing this idolized image you have of your ex to the image you have of who is a very real person that you've had to pay bills with, clean up after, see day in and day out, is patently unfair.Fact is, you don't really know your ex as a person anymore. He could be (if you left him and went to live with him and the "honeymoon" period wears off) just as bad if not worse than you think your husband is. Its always easy to make someone out to be more perfect than you think simply because you don't know them. 20 years is a long time... you don't remotely know the kind of man he's grown into. And frankly, if he is as great as you think he is, would he appreciate the kind of woman YOU are, someone who would dump their husband when he's going through a terminal illness? I know i wouldn't. But i digress.You heard the saying, "the grass is always grenner on the other side"? That's all this is. Life with anyone, even the mate of our dreams, is never a fairytale. No matter what the stories say, I bet there were times when Cinderella got real tired of the prince working late or Snow White didn't find Prince Charming so charming anymore when she had to pick up his dirty tights off the floor. Or Rapunzel wanted to smack her Prince when he suggested he liked her hair longer. Or when he didn't put the toilet seat down.I'n being a little funny, but you get my drift. Don't be a fool at your age... you're grown enough to know that life isn't a fairytale.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): Yes,I do sound like a terrible person. But my ex boyfriend was my first love. As for my husband of 20 years, we do have our up and down. As far as sex go with my husband, he only satisfy himself and never thought about my needs. I thank you all for your responds.
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (14 December 2008):
You need to confess your adultery to your husband and tell him you only married him for his dick, and since he can't use that anymore, than you want a divorce.
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (14 December 2008):
What you are doing is disgusting! You're supposed to be there for your husband through sickness and in health! Why the heck did you get married! You have no respect for your husband nor yourself. You are treating marriage like a disposable diaper.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): you wanna leave your husband now that he needs you the most? just because you cant have sex? wow...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): I wasn't sure if I should dignify this question with an answer, but my blood is boiling and I have to vent!!!!!!
ARE YOU SERIOUS??? IS THIS A LEGITIMATE QUESTION, or someone just messing around???
I am going to answer it as a serious question...Whatever happened to "For better or for worse"..."In sickness and in health"..."Till death....???" Well you get the idea. Where you there during your wedding vows? I don't think anything about "until a bigger dick comes along!"
That's all I gotta say!
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (13 December 2008):
 you're right,
you should divorce him. you'd be doing him a favor.
Who the hell do you think you are? how insensitive and heartless can you be? has the 20 years of marriage been that bad? is he that bad of a guy that yoiu'd fuck around behind his back while he's got cancer?
Seriously.. thats Such a low blow.
you should divorce him, he deserves alot better.
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