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writes: okay so i have this friend who has cancer, and i love her deeply. i tlaked about this with my mother and i know that she only has about 1 year to live. now my grandma died about 3 years ago and i wasnt very close to her, but i got really depressed about it and i wasnt myself for about 6 months, even had to see a therapist. i know this sounds really self centred but should i distance myself from this friend with cancer? im way closer to her than i was to my grandmother and if im with her till the end i think i might get really sick and depressed and i dont think i can handle it. my dad is an alchoholic and has problems with depression and i dont want to turn out like him. should i distance myself? i cant go through this again, i feel like it wiill kill me.[Added]just wondering, can you catch cancer? is it contagious?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): I dont think you should back off, he needs all the help and suppoort he can get ,my mom had cancer and it was hard to be around her maybe see how you go and try and be strong for him, it will make you feel better if you have done something worthwhile.
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reader, rambini  +, writes (18 June 2008):
 Your attitude is very selfish, your friend is having an awful time and needs all the support she can get right now. from what you say on your post you obviously havent even researched your friends condition as no cancer is not contagious. It strikes me that you are being immensely self centred and need to take a step back and consider your friend and what she is going through. If you don't feel you can support her and help her 100% then maybe you should distance yourself for her benefit as she needs people to love and support her. Im sure she is very frightened. Death is horrible but unfortunately it is a part of life, and it is something we all have to experience usually multiple times. Iv lost many family and friends, but you have to try to be strong and make the most of every second you have with them. good luck
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reader, Madam Taylor  +, writes (18 June 2008):
Don't be selfish, if your friend can handle having cancer then you can handle been her friend. You are tougher then you think the harsh things in life that happen to us create who we are as people, ofcourse it will depress you but be strong, you will be a better person at the end of the day. Just imagine what she would go through if you abandoned her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): Vow, if you call yourself a friend and you truelly love this person, you will not think of yourself; you will want to be with this person and to as much as possible for this person while you still can. Life is not in our hands, me and you can die even before this person.
Cheer up and enjoy each others friendship and company while you can.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (18 June 2008):
 Is cancer contagious? Just how old are you?
Because if that is your attitude then yes, distance yourself from her because she doesn't need you around.
She needs support not someone who worries only about herself.
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reader, dumdum +, writes (18 June 2008):
Oh I feel for you, It's a double edge sword isn't it? If your with her till the end, your get really depressed but if you cut her out of your life, your properly end up regreting it for the rest of your life and cause your freind more pain. So yeah I agree distance the best cource of action, still be there though
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