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36-40,
*olidus
writes:It's been 14 days since I stopped talking with my Ex/first love. We were together 9 months broke up twice and then were friends. We had sex back in June, then after I found out she had sex with someone else decided to cut her out of my life. I loved her more than I ever thought I could love someone. She was one of my best friends and each day I don't talk to her I feel a little bit better. I still think about her a lot though. We're still friends on facebook so it alerts me when she puts up new pictures and things. Today it showed me a picture of her kissing some guy who does cocaine that she alluded to having sex with. Upon seeing these new pictures I didn't feel heartbroken exactly...but I didn't feel too happy either. I'll admit Seeing her kissing some other guy in photos took me a minute or two to regain my composure. One thing that always seems to make me feel better is when I run into people we knew her and they tell me that my Ex is crazy. It's happened 3 times this week! It's always the first thing out of their mouths. The fact that all these people saw that she was off as well makes me feel...I don't know, like I'm not alone in seeing her many foibles (drugs and alcohol abuse, mental problems, promiscuity...) They weren't on the "inside" like me so they don't know the FULL extent of her "quirks" but enough to know she wasn't good enough for me...Do you guys think that I should delete her as a facebook friend? A part of me doesn't want to be updated on her what she is doing (hence why I stopped talking to her on the phone as knowing how high/drunk she was and who she fucked while like that hurt my heart) and then there's the other part of me that knows once I delete her as a friend there's no going back. Ever. I will have no other avenue of seeing into her life. Even though she's no good for me at times I do miss my friend. Deleting her completely would mean no longer seeing her face at all or knowing what she's up to. Am I stupid for agonizing over this decision? Should I just delete her completely or just try to ignore the updates?
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reader, Solidus +, writes (15 July 2008):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the question I did it. I deleted her.
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reader, OhLawdWhat DoIDo  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 I'll keep this short, delete her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): Cut her completely. Everything, emails, texts etc. Do you really want to see a picture of her and her new guy when she gets one? If you have no feelings for her and can REALLY be her friend then do so, but if seeing her hurts then cut her off. Maybe in the future when you don't care anymore you can renew the friendship
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