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writes:=== should I delete my male friends because my boyfriend asked me to do it????Hello everyone My boyfriend asked me to delete all my male friends on facebook! p.s: They aren't lot just 6-7 friends because only accept good friends. And when I asked him why? He said that he saw a lot of likes on my wall picture from men ... To be clear the picture had 65 like and only 6men like it so the majority are female friends! Please help me and sorry for my English ??
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reader, WhenCowsAttack  +, writes (24 August 2015):
No! He's jealous and insecure, personally I think you should "delete" him!
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (24 August 2015):
 Hi,
i feel that your bf is quite controlling, possessive, jealous & overly sensitive regarding you & other guys, especially platonic connections via fb.
So long as you are sincere about him, so long as you didn't breach his trust in you & so long as you didn't place any erotic images of yourself via your fb page, i cannot see why he has any reason, to ask you, to delete all of your male friends via your page.
More importantly here, is the issue of trust.
Does your bf truly trust you? & if not, why not?
I ask this question, because if he did trust you, then why would he ask you to delete all of your male friends via fb?
It may also be that he is a very jealous & insecure guy, who is so scared of losing you to somebody else.
(Only you would know which category represents your situation.)
A few other things- perhaps he has a reputation of not being trustworthy, so he assumes you aren't either, or perhaps he's been burnt in the past & now he's giving you grief, although you're a new & very different person.
You need to stand up to him & let him know, politely & calmly that you will not be removing any of your male friends via fb & if he has a serious issue with that, well then, that's his issue to carry.
Let him know that you want to be with a man who trusts you fully & you won't settle for anything less.
What would happen if you married him?
Things would only go from this to worse, because then, he could say that you are his wife & he expects you to do right by him.
At the end of the day, he doesn't own you, nor control your life & even if you were his wife, he'd still have no right to control what you do, when all you're doing is chatting with friends via fb, not trying to lure extra men into your life, for the wrong reasons.
What it all comes down to quite simply, is that if there is no trust & respect within a relationship, then what do you really have?
I wish you all the best & let me know how you get on. :-)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 August 2015):
 How long have you been dating?
And aside from getting likes from males friend have you don't anything that makes him think it's inappropriate to have male friend?
Are your picture semi-undressed/bikini kind or just various pictures of activities, nights out, etc?
Is your Facebook private? Or can anyone view your profile/pictures?
Is he deletes all his female friend in return?
I find it really pretty IF these are not semi nude pictures that he gets a say in whom you can befriend. Whether it's on Facebook or in "reality".
I don't really think his REASON as to why is acceptable. He doesn't OWN you, or control you. And unless he can come up with a better reason, I'd say not going to happen.
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