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writes: Who should I date? I am 18 years old and very very good friends with a 25 year old guy. In fact, we've been friends since I was 15. Nothing inappropriate ever happened because of our (illegal!) age difference, but I've had feelings for him ever since I met him. Now that I'm 18, I want a relationship with him, and he wants one too.He's amazing, I could gush about him forever. He's everything I've ever wanted. And we have loads in common. I never notice the 7 year age gap, because our interests and personalities get on so well.But, there is a problem. My family disapproves. In fact, they're trying to set me up with a guy my own age (18). He's nice, but the feelings for him just aren't there. In fact, I find him to be a bit annoying and clingy, and we have nothing in common except a similar t.v. show interest.I have one guy I care about a HUGE amount, but he's 7 years older, and another guy my own age that my family would rather have me date (but I feel nothing for him).What would you do in this situation? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2006): I've been in similar situation to the extent i was banned from seeing the guy i really like simply because his family were up to no good and so didn't want my family being associated with bad name. Its hurts me so much but i'm close to my family and so if they weren't going to be happy then possibly my relationship would most likely suffer. What are their reasons for disapproving - is it because of the age gap or other things? If thats the only thing and you are sure about it then i think you should go for it. Good luck xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2006): I guess I should add that this is common sense. I'm sure mom and dad don't approve quite a lot of things. Geez, for you to even ask this question, you must allow your parents to dictate the type of food you eat, the friends you make, the school you go to, the courses you take, the 'hobbies' they want you to have, even the way you brush your teeth and fold your clothes!!!
My parents, especially my mom do not like most of the girls I date(d). I will listen and I will take their words into consideration, but ultimately, who the heck gave them the power to hold me against what I truly desire? I can understand if they don't want me to smoke, drink my liver away, and do some rather illegal type of things, but dating/love and romance?
Do you not have your own mind, your own heart?!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2006): You go for the one that you like.
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