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writes: hello im am 15 male and i have a big problem (well it is for me). theres this girl that i fancy alot but she is 13 she says she feels the same way and wants to go out with me but the ages diffence is a concern for because im in year 11 and shes in year 8 im doing my mock exams at the moment and will be leaving skool soon i feel alot for her but im not sure if i am inlove with her im very confused about my feelings and my othere concern is that she just wants to go out with me coz im older she dosent seem that way to me tho coz she is very kind and shy we flirt alot but she is my best m8s sister my m8 says that it is ok with her but im afraid of wot other people think i was talking to her in skool a week or 2 ago and someone called me a noince and i was just talking they was only joking but if there like that when im just talking wot will they be like if they found out i like her ( or when and if i go out with her).im sorri this draged on a bit but im very confused.yours thankfully totaly confused p.s if i do go out with her i am still leaving skool in july and she will be there for another 3 years thx angen
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2006): hey i think u should give it a shot i am 12 and i am dating a 15 year old boy and our relationship is great even though my parents said we shouldnt be so dont listen 2 anyone else they r not worth losing somthin great over but just give it a try and see how it goes and if it doesnt go good tell her what your problem is snd she will understand hopefully!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2006): well dude whats the age got to do with your relationship age does not control your feelings so if i was you i would date her what you got to lose i mean its only love ans love is natrual
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2006): go for it life's to short.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2006): hi I'm 13 and my BF is 14. I'm in 7th hes in 8th I mean yea you should go for her. Just give he a note saying Will you go out with me. You should try it out (dating) with her .
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2005): If you still read this now I can answer this knowing exactly how you feel - in senior school which i think is same as high school - ages 11-16 i too had a chance to go out with a younger girl who was 3 years younger. I was 16 and she being 13. We had a mutual friend who told me she wanted to go out wit me n i wanted her but wouldnt because of what people would say although my closest friends wer all ok with it. Now im 22 and still regret not going out with her even now so I say dont bother what others think your true friends wont care about it and go out with her if you want. Lifes too short to be bothered bout othas thoughts and who knows if you regret it when it too late
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2005): I think you should do what you think you want. If you still feel this way in a week or two I think you should go out with her. You have nothin to lose!!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (12 January 2005):
 Hi there, TC,You sound like a sensitive and kind young man, but might be building this up into much more than it needs to be. Although the age difference seems large to you now, in a few years, you'll look back at this situation and wonder what you were worrying about. (For example, in 2020, you'll be 30 and she'll be 27. See what I mean?)Think of it this way: suppose that this girl was an especially keen student, and got promoted a few grades when she was in primary school. If she was still 13, but in the same year as you are, would you regard her age as an issue? You probably wouldn't, which means that you're really getting more concerned about "what people will think" than you are about getting the know a nice, kind-but-shy girl. "What will people think if I do (whatever)?" is an enormous waste of your time and energy and a trap you can avoid falling into; resolve to accept that you have good instincts about people generally and that you date whomever you want to. As long as what you have in mind is morally acceptable and legal(!), then hang what other people think. This is a great oppotunity to practice being your own man.Having said all that, what you're contemplating is *dating* this girl, getting to know her better and having some fun together, not marrying her. Why not take things a small step at a time and spare yourself a lot of headaches? If you like her and the feeling is mutual, why not invite her to join you and some friends out one afternoon? See where it goes from there. That way, your friends can get acquainted with her at the same time (it also takes the pressure of both of you to be perfect company when you only barely know each other). One added benefit is that your friends will find out what you already feel about her: that she's kind and nice. Then her age won't matter. And if any of your friends have the gall to comment about her age while she's there with you, that tells you a great deal about how much growing up your friends have to do!One last thing: don't feel you have to rush into things. I'm happy to hear that you feel good about this girl, but don't worry about whether or not you're in love with her. It's early days and nobody's got a stopwatch, so take your time and have fun becoming friends. What happens beyond that is anybody's guess.
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