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writes:I was wondering, does it matter whether I date a guy who has had less formal education than me? He recently asked me out. He's not been to college and I have.I wonder if that will have any effect on our relationship...help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Butterflyfly  +, writes (19 July 2007):
 Yeah hapiness matters the most and there are some clever cookies outthere who havent been through too much formal education yet have done well for themselves so don't judje that too much.. If you get bored together and you're the only one who initiates conversations or you aren't on the same wave lenght, well, you can get judgemental then :-). xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): I think everyone has intellect in some way or another. If you date him for awhile and find that you both have the same direction, then no it really doesn't matter.What really matters is that you are 100% happy in your relationship.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (10 July 2007):
 I came out of school with no qualifications and my husband who i have been with for twelve years finished with loads and then went onto college, so i personally think that it does not matter really, if you like each other and you have things in common your education should not need to come into it.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Im gonna leave this simple. If you like him and he likes you that can make for a great relationsip.
Education plays no part in a good one and his intelligence has no bearing on if it will work or not.
If you do go out with him enjoy it
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reader, JessAgonyAunt +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Hey, well do you fancie him?? just because he hasn't been to college it doesn't mean he is not intellegant, you can date who you like? ask yourself do you enjoy being with him? is he a nice person?, well if you like him then go for it girl!! as long as you feel comfortable around him.
GOOD LUCK
JESS XXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): No one can tell you if it matters because whether or not something like that matters is very individual and more part of a personality trait. Some people put emphasis on having a similar educational background, whereas others put none.
You need to do whatever feels right for you, maybe you could go out on a date with him; what harm will it do? You will probably quickly see whether or not your educational differences have an effect on how you are together or how your relationship may be, if you decide to have one. I'm sure though, there are far greater and more important differences and problems than can affect how successful a relationship is.
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reader, LauraE +, writes (10 July 2007):
Hi,
The way the world works, it is easier for man to date a less well educated woman than the other way around, so I can understand you thinking about this. I think it really depends on the attitudes of you both, not on his education. He may not be as well educated, but can you tell this when you are with him? He may be as bright as you although not educated. If he is enjoyable to be with, and you feel like he is your equal, then you should be fine. Would he have an issue with you being better educated? If he doesn’t seem to have any hang-ups about it, then trust him to be fine with it also. Another issue might be the attitude of other people. If you feel that you can cope with a few people making unfair judgements, then, again, it’s your business. If you are comfortable with each other, then that’s all that matters.
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