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writes:Okay I met my boyfriend two years ago. On New Years it was a long distance relationship. They we both agreed to move to another state to be together. Everything seemed to be okay. It seemed like the more we became serious the more his mother started to intervine. Not only that he would call my mother everyday and tell her what was goin on in relationship. Our relationship hit a hard patch and we broke up because once again he told everybody about our business and listen to them and broke up with me. After he broke up with me i started to see someone else. Knowing that was not what i wanted i left him alone. Later on we talked about our relationship and got back together without telling anybody. We even gotten married. Nobody knew that we gotten married until we told them. My husband recently took a job out the country that requires him to be gone for at least 3 months at a time. Then his mother found out that we were married. I spoke to her on the phone and the conversation went well. She told him a completely different story. Then while he was gone he was telling his manager about our relationship. I even spoken to him about our relationship not williling. Then recently somethings needed to be done to the car. Me or course could of handle the car. He called his father to handle the car business. Then while all that was going on he told me he felt as though he was being used. I told him to keep his money. So he closed the checking acct. Know he also wanted me to send his stero equipment in a war zone so he could i guess keep himself busy. I refuse to because i felt as though that wouldn't be a good idea knowing that dangers he faced everyday and his equipment and the memory couldn't be replace. I even told him to buy new equipment to keep there with him.So all this is going on and his birthday is around the corner. At the time i was the only one paying the bills. So i didn't send him anything for his b-day until a few weeks later. Which he got late because of the country. So at the same time before he closed the acct. I was trying to tell him about the bills. He would consistanly hang up on me. Then he told me that when he does come home that he was going to visit his family first and them come to see me. So me being upset with that. I told him i wanted a divorce, i didn't love him, and that he could get his thing and move out. He told me that was frustated with me. I told him the same. He says know that he's only worried about himself and that since i put him out anyway that i should see the divorce paper soon. Before he told me that. I suggested that when he came home that we seek marital counsuling. He refuse and said he was going to visit his family. Should I continue with the filings of the divorce?
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reader, llcooljayce +, writes (18 February 2009):
 Doesn't sound like you need to jump into a divorce, more like you need to have a conversation about the way you both feel. What is bothering each of you, and why it's bothering you. Compromise. I think you can save this relationship.
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