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writes:Honestly I dont know what to make of it. My boyfriend and I just finished making love and he screams from the bathroom "blood". Yes Im in shock I just bled a little from having sex with my boyfriend. It has never happened to me and I expected more consolation from my boyfriend. He tells me it happens when girls dont have sex that much and plus he was in too deep in my walls. What pisses me more is that he has been taking it as a joke and bragging about how good of a job he did to make me bleed like that. He even goes as far as saying he did such a good job I didnt even know he had torn something. I am really hurt at these comments. I am tired of the non-sensitivity to my feelings. My feelings gets hurts when he brags about beng a king kong in bed. Like is this what sex is really all aboutWhat do you guys think about the bleeding situation and should this kind of joke be tolerated by my boyfriend? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2011): WoW! what an asshole, i wouldnt even bother talking to him again, he is an imature fool.
you should go to the doctor though about the bleeding my friend had the same problem, especially if your periods are irregular it could be ovarian cysts.
As for that guy, dump his ass asap! he has no respect for women, the fact that he bragged about making you bleed just makes him sound like an animal. Sorry but thanks what i think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI doubt if it is him that is bleeding cos' I used the bathroom the next morning and something came out from me. I was thinking it could be from the fingering too but I am a really wet person so it dont take that much to get me hot and heavy. We talked today and he was so shocked how I felt and felt really bad that he didnt know it had never happened to me. I told him I was freaking out and he couldnt console me. Now he is asking that I go see the doctor and lets see how to proceed. I really just think he pumped too hard and I had my legs up in the air on a couch. Whatever happens after the doctors visit I will let u know.
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reader, bad romaance  +, writes (29 April 2011):
 Are You sure it was you that was bleading ?
This happened to me and my boyfriend before like there was blood all over his penis when he pulled out and there was blood coming out of me too and I think I was a day away from my period being due so i just assumed it had come early.
Anyways we just wrote it off at that and after my period had gone we had sex again and yet the same thing had happened again. I was so confused, so he inspected himself thoroughly and found a small cut under his foreskin and that was the source of all the blood.
So you never know could be him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): I know that my ex would bleed easily from the things we did. If I didn't give her plenty of foreplay and make sure she was really hot and heavy then she could wind up bleeding just from using my fingers. I always felt bad and worried I had hurt her and then I would just hold her. Then she would feel bad because it kinda killed the mood. She said she didn't really hurt and often didn't even know anything was wrong until she saw the blood. I would often see it on my hand and just hold her after she orgasmed and wait till she had fully enjoyed the experience before i told her what had happened.It is possible that he is trying to convince himself that it is normal just as much as he is trying convince you as a cooping mechanism for his guilt of hurting you.It is also equally possible that he really is just being insensitive and if that is the case then that really is unacceptable. You will need to try to calmly talk to him to see what his feelings are. Make sure you talk in person and don't let your tempers or your voices raise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): No you shouldnt tolerate being treated so badly by someone who is supposed to love you. Im sure you deserve to be treated with far more respect. What on earth do you see in this person? If i were you, id get checked out by a doctor and get rid of the bf, hes got problems!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI told him I felt a sharp pain afterwards and he kept insisting its normal and nothing to worry about. I havent really told him he was been insensitive. He normally calms down and listens when I bring such behavior to his forefront. Im just too mad at him right now to talk. All that is going on in my head is if I get pregnant and going through all the changes, could he possibly there for me like I want him too. He is normally concerned about my health I just wonder why this happened. Ever since I told him "Is that all" after our second encounter it seems like he has been trying to prove a point and doesnt waant me to underestimate his skills. He asked me the next morning if I was still in pain and that was it. Im back home now and dont wanna even speak to him at this point.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (28 April 2011):
 Did you tell him it was hurtful & insensitive?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): I think you should see a doctor about the bleeding.
And no, this is NOT a joking situation at all! I got mad just reading your post--how can he be so immature. Does he get a kick out of doing damage to people? A "good job" would be if you were euphoric, not bleeding. I would dump him on the spot. You said you were "tired of the non-sensitivity to my feelings" which suggests he is generally insensitive to your feelings.
He should be ashamed of himself.
Any decent guy would be concerned over any little problem with your health or your mood. Even more so if he had anything to do with it, like he does here! I would NOT tolerate this any further.
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