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writes:Hi there Hope everyone is okay and your keeping yourself all safe from covid, the story begins and it’s not often about football. I love football, I’m a fan of the game and used to play when I was younger, and wasn’t that good but I still enjoy watching the sport and sometimes playing it. I support a non league side who aren’t very good, and who my friends take the mick out of,say I should support a better team. my grandfather who is no longer around anymore, he passed away from cancer, which really hit me hard, he would always take me to games and he always supported the team. I sometimes talk to my friends on facebook, but they rarely talk to me that much as they have busy life’s of their own, which I understand. I like to have conversations with people and find out what the interests are and if they aren’t interested in me or what I have to say, I normally do not bother to continue this. I’ve been talking to a football manager for a few weeks and we actually enjoy our conversations with each other, and this is something that has never happened to me, in my life before, not even ever, I have suggested players to him, for his club to sign, some he has gone for, others he hasn’t agreed with me on, that’s fine because that’s his own opinion right? I’m in two minds as to whether to still continue to talk to him or not, as I don’t want to come across as needy, what should I do? as I don’t want to become one of those people that’s suffocating and people don’t enjoy talking to?hope you’re able to help thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2022):
just someone to talk to, that’s all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2022):
the manager is a he, and not a she, there’s nothing romantic going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2022): It is clear you want a lot more than just chatting, admit it, and stop making out this is just innocent chats you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2022): As this is on dear Cupid and not a general football advice site I am assuming that there is a potential romantic interest involved here.
I just want to warn you that not all people manage their own Facebook sites if they are in the public eye.
Some people have fan club writers and they always appear friendly!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2022): I asked him, if he found my messages too much, he said no, then I asked if it was okay to message him still, he said I could. I’m handling this very carefully and don’t want to scare him off.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 January 2022):
 I agree with Ciar,
If you back off a bit and he DOES contact you, he obviously wants to chat. If he DOESN'T he is either busy or just not that keen on chatting. Both are OK.
It's easy to feel like you are getting to know someone online, but the reality is that people (generally) put their best foot forward if they represent a company or in this case, a club.
If YOU feel you are being too much, just dial it back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2022):
if he enjoys talking to you, I don’t see why it can’t continue, it’s good your not being needy and being careful. that’s sensible and it goes to show your handling the situation well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2022): your right ciar, that was by mistake, and wasn’t on purpose, I don’t know what happened exactly or why the post popped up again, maybe this site crashed perhaps and that’s why?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (13 January 2022):
 I believe this is the third time you've submitted a question about this football manager, so you're already coming across as needy to me.
I can't find the other questions, or I'd have included links to them, but this situation sounds very familiar.
My suggestion is you cool it a while. See if your football manager contacts you. If not, you have your answer.
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reader, kenny +, writes (13 January 2022):
 I think that you are thinking way to much into this, why would you think that you would come across as needy?. You like football, he is a football manager who obviously likes football and you have a common interest.
Just be yourself, keep being you and don't ever change who you are. If you like talking to the football manager and he likes talking to you then keep doing so.
Unless your calling him at ungodly hours, or turning up at his house unexpectedly then there is no reason why you would come across as suffocating.
So you support a non league team, well good on you for that i think thats great that you go and offer your support to them. A lot of people are what i call glory supporters, with clubs like Liverpool, or Manchester united, supporting them just because they are in the premiership.
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