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30-35,
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writes:So I currently finished my first year in college and happened to have met this guy during the last couple of weeks I was there.We met in class. I initiated a conversation with him, as he seemed not interested in me at all but I wanted to make things less uncomfortable as we were assigned to work together... anyway, after a while he loosened up and seemed to show attraction for me (as he tended to stand quite close and talked to me more softly).I felt really comfortable with him but at the same time nervous as clearly our difference in opinions and ways of approaching things was different.After that day I couldn't stop thinking about him.... so the last day of class I asked him if we could be friends and he asked for my number.... a couple of days later he asked me out for lunch but I missed this message and ended up not going.... of course I apologized as I felt terrible and we organized to meet after exams... at the time it seemed fine and was looking forward to it but weeks passed and I started loosing interest as we didn’t contact each other (other than I sent him a txt wishing him good luck).After exams were over we met for a drink and he seemed to be nervous and uncomfortable. I tried my best to entertain him and talk about all sorts of things.... and even though I was sometimes frustrated at him cos he seemed almost cynical an uninterested in what I had to say...As well as sounding like he was in a hurry so our date finished short...At the end he we agreed to see each other next year and that’s the last I saw of him....I was glad I went on a date with him to get to know him but was really disappointed by how he acted to me.... he was borderline rude and immature.But even though this hurt me I still think about him a lot and wish that next year Ill have a chance to clear this up in another date just to make sure I wasn't wrong about him and that I can prove these bad thoughts wrong...Or I hope I can meet another guy who can treat me better so I don't get into a relationship I will maybe regret...At this stage I was thinking of asking him if we are still friends thru text but I don't know if that would be appropriate...Any thoughts or comments are welcome! Also I partly blame myself for the last date that went wrong as I might have acted too confident but it was definitely not on purpose as I really wanted to talk, and also I tend to do that when I'm nervous, and to avoid awkward silence and maybe he didn't like that!! As that spark from when we first met was definitely not there anymore....What should I do?
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reader, WinnieThePoohRocks!  +, writes (20 November 2010):
he was proberly acting like that on yer last date because he thought you didnt actually 'miss the last message ' ,maybe he thought you werent intrested in him ..
him acting like that is normal for a guy , he was prob nervous cuz he felt something for you , well he obv did if he was willin to meet you next year and ask you out for lunch that time .. dont text and ask are we still mates , that sounds really stupid and immature , just strike up a convo with him thru text startin with somethin likee emm ' hey long time no chat , how'd you get on in those exams ' , or just 'hey stranger , long time no chat/see '' that shud do it .. either way defo text him cuz you will be in a mystery for a long time wondering.
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